News: Susan Quilliam Announces New Relationship Courses

Cliterati favourite, Susan Quilliam has announced a series of sessions she’s running this autumn to help find, enhance and get over relationships. Getting Better at Online Dating covers the background to online dating and explain why the fact that it’s so new means it can be so challenging… after which she looks at how to

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Event preview: Kinky Fire Magic for Halloween, London, 30 October

Learn how to set people on fire (safely!) at this afternoon workshop, and then discover how to use it for personal transformation in a kinky evening ritual with other likeminded fire-lovers. If it doesn’t change your life, it should at least be a lot of fun. The event, run by Camden’s Sacred Pleasures, is the

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News: Sh! Announces November Events

Sh!, London’s iconic destination erotic emporium has announced an exciting schedule of in-store events for November 2014,l taking place at the store’s London location at 57 Hoxton Square, London N1 6PB. For the month of November, Team Sh! will be inviting visitors to take photographs of themselves showing off their fake or real moustaches in

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The man in the picture

The man in the picture smiles broadly; he shows a row of even white teeth. The smile is natural, spontaneous, etching crinkles around his eyes. And those eyes – clear, blue, welcoming the camera lens, not shifty, nor untrusting. He presumably knows whoever is behind the viewfinder – maybe it’s a friend, an old girlfriend,

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Event preview: The Velvet Curtain, Hastings Storytelling Festival, 14 November 2014

Hastings Storytelling Festival is in its fourth year, celebrating the oral tradition of storytelling with original tales told through spoken word, poetry, puppetry, song and movement. With Sir Quentin Blake (best known perhaps for his Roald Dahl illustrations) as patron, it is probably the largest festival of its kind in the country. The Velvet Curtain

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Book Extract: Blue Mondays by Emily Dubberley

After meeting Ben on the underground, and returning his dropped wallet, Lucy is rewarded with breakfast in Kensington Roof Gardens. The romantic surroundings and obvious chemistry between them soon sees things heating up… Ben took Lucy’s hand and led her through a doorway covered with climbing leaves -“The entrance to the Tudor gardens – my

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News: Cliterati Founder Releases New Erotic Novel

  This week sees the launch of Blue Mondays, released on 23rd October. Blue Mondays tells the story of Lucy and Ben, and what happens after they meet in a London Tube carriage. It’s a stylish story of love and romance that readers can relate to, set in the UK, and packed with red-hot sex

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Erotica: Beguiling Curiosity by Cheeky Minx

The days. The months. The years. The lure. The intimacy. The torment. The glimpse of this beguiling curiosity. The moments burned deep into your flesh. The echo of that voice. The taste of the words. The mouth aching to savour the softness of that skin. The fire, that kiss. The intensity your body and soul

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Toy Reviews: The Autoblow 2

I have a small collection of toys, but they’ve been sitting untouched for probably a couple of years now. Men’s sex toys have suffered from a depressing lack of design for many years; the tendency was to produce yet another lurid pink sleeve with disembodied genitals moulded on one end. Women’s toys moved on from

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Toy Stories #1: Me and My Cock

I have used sex toys before. A lot of sex toys. They are not a replacement for sex but rather occupy space of their own in my sexual lexicon: from a fast-food wank to a self-indulgent fantasy session. They are there to fill any gaps, so to speak. They are not anthropomorphised for me, no

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London festival aims to create ‘sex positive space that is not just about sex’

Event Preview: Elsewhere, London 25 & 26 October Ruby May, a former sex worker whose portrait was banned from the National Portrait Gallery because it featured her pubic hair, is bringing to London a festival that aims to challenge the divide between sex and the rest of human life. Ruby was the subject of a

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Toy Reviews: We-Vibe 4 Plus by Suzanne Grange

I was sent this toy for free to review, though I’d had my eye on it for a while. Currently £127.99 on lovehoney.co.uk. If you have the cash, it’s worth splashing out.   The We Vibe 4 Plus differs from the previous 3 models in its range of settings and its controllability. The vibe comes

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Book Extract: Screw the Fairytale- A Modern Girl’s Guide to Sex and Love by Helen Croydon

In Screw The Fairytale: A Modern Guide to Sex and Love, Helen Croydon looks at modern models of relationships to the conventional marriage and kids. The idea of a 24-7 relationship is her idea of hell. Co-ordinated supermarket shops and weekends – no thanks! So she goes on a journey to find a more realistic

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Gift Horse

I am often asked by interviewers if I think the majority of sex work prohibitionists truly wish us harm, or if they’re just misguided.  I answer that while the leaders of the prohibition movement are evil, duplicitous and fully aware of the harm they’re causing both to whores and to our clients and families, most of the

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Let there be light

Before The Man, just the thought of sex in the light – be it daylight or with the light on – made me want to put on an extra cardigan. In the early years with The Ex it was rarely suggested, but then any hint of it was largely supressed by me, quickly turning the

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Event Preview: Shibari With Santi, 8 & 9 November 2014, London

Shibari – Japanese rope bondage – is an unendingly popular form of kink, and these two workshops run by Sacred Pleasures‘ resident rope geek, Santiago Genochio, consistently sell out – so book early. The first day is for beginners, the second for those who have already attended one of Santi’s beginners’ days. Or you can

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Unreal Horrors

As befits a girl who was born on Halloween night, I’m a big fan of horror films, horror stories, horror TV shows, horror comics, horror poems and just about anything macabre and creepy.  I’ve written about horror fiction on my blog more than a few times, especially (though by no means exclusively) in October, which is

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Toy Preview: Luna by Lelo vs Lula by ElectraStim

There are many different names for what Anastasia in Fifty Shades called ‘Jiggle balls’, such as Ben Wa balls, Geisha balls, Kegel balls/exercisers, love eggs, silver balls and orgasm balls. Dr Arnold Henry Kegel’s publications gave us the terms Kegel exercises and Kegel exerciser. Kegel exercises are now the recommended way to improve a range

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How does it work?

With all my recent questioning and hand-wringing over relationships, which never comes to any satisfactory conclusion, I thought it time to look at those who get it right. Or appear to get it right in front of friends and onlookers. Some couples just seem to make it work with very few problems – no pots

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Book Extract: The Reunion by Adam Sawyer

As the train pulled into Manchester station it felt good to be back in the city where I’d been to university. I’d kept in touch with some of my uni friends, but mostly on email. Karen and I hadn’t seen each other in all that time. We’d been good friends as students: not only did

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News: Hundred Watt Club Introduces New Brighton Show

Surrey’s sell out Hundred Watt Club show is bringing a night of gorgeous burlesque and risqué cabaret and circus entertainment to Brighton. Dress up to the nines in your retro finery and let the ladies (and gents) of the chorus delight you for a few hours, on Saturday 15th November. Taking place at the Old

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