Whore Detection

Tyrannical laws, especially those against consensual behaviors, are supported by many people suffering from the delusion that these laws (or other, subsequent laws based on the precedent of the laws they supported) will never, ever be used against them or anyone they care about.  Of course, this is nothing but a naïve fantasy; the fact of

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From mediocre to magic

You may think Drunken Slut Mum is a woman lacking any conscience or morality, without any feelings or care for anyone else other than herself. She likes to pretend this, especially in front of the man, but sorry, this isn’t the case. DSM feels, hurts, loves and laughs just like any other woman. I love

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Book Review: The Accidental Cougar by Sommer Marsden

I love me some Sommer Marsden. I haven’t yet read a book of hers that I haven’t liked, and this one is no exception. The Accidental Cougar tells the story of Abby, an early-forties woman who’s just come out of a twenty-plus-year marriage and is just learning how to cope with the huge change to her life.

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Crippling Thought

The danger of crippling thought, the danger of obstructing the formation of the public mind by specially suppressing…representations is far greater than any real danger…from such representations. -  George Bernard Shaw Today is the first day of Banned Books Week, an occasion which interests me as a librarian, as a sex worker and as a steadfast supporter

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Birthday treats…

I’m searching for a clean coffee cup in the back of the cupboard when the doorbell rings. You’re standing outside with a box in your arms. When I get to the door, you hold up the box and mouth “Happy Birthday!” through the glass. After a hurried search for keys I let you in. “Perfect

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Why do kink when you can do ‘Ecstatic BDSM’?

Why just do kink when you can do ‘Ecstatic BDSM’? That’s the question London Faerie aims to answer at The Purple Door, a two-day workshop in London, on Saturday 27th and Sunday 28th September. The workshop provides a comprehensive introduction to Ecstatic BDSM – sometimes also called ‘conscious kink’ – for anyone with any level of

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Over and out?

Apparently there is no point going on the internet to find a potential partner, if you are a woman in her 40s – so says a newspaper article I found during a casual internet browse. I won’t disclose the wording I typed in my search box, but it included the words “is there any point…”

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Book Review: Black Dog (Bannon’s Gym) by Cat Grant

Black Dog is book one in Cat Grant’s Bannon’s Gym series, and based on this, I’ll definitely be checking out the rest of the books. This is gay erotic romance with some serious testosterone – and I’m not just talking about in the bedroom. This book tells the story of Danny Bannon and Eddie Roscoe – two guys

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Erotica: In Softness by Cheeky Minx

The day breaks in softness, its hushed tones and muted voices merging with the memory of the night and its darkly wanton edges, enveloping the curves feminine, whispering to my sensual passions, to the woman reaching out, arching up, longing to receive your touch. And once you meet me, once your hands finally unearth me,

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Alexis Trevelyan Writes…

The Secrets of Sarah-Jane: 1. The Tease combines hot, saucy erotica and action thriller, in a fast-paced story that introduces the sexy assassin’s assistant Sarah-Jane Winchester, and her amorous friend Maria Gorrochachega. When her guardian aunt catches young Sarah-Jane in bed with Uncle Steven she gets packed off to the Elysium, a strict finishing school

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Preview: Sex Sells

This October sees the launch of a major new art show from three excting artist, exploring the sexual, the sensual, and the sinister. Encompassing the macabre, the kinky and intensley sexual, each artist explores the erotic realms, each in their inimitable style. Celebrated designer Jess Eaton has saturated the national press with her subversive and

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The Face of Trafficking

I am often asked if, by calling “sex trafficking” a myth, I’m saying that there is no such thing as coercion in sex work.  The answer, of course, is “not at all”; what I’m saying is 1) that coercion is much rarer than “trafficking” fetishists pretend it is; 2) that the term “trafficking” is used

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Alas, the phallus (again)

“Stop waving your dick around – we’ve all seen it now so you can put it away!” I had got particularly annoyed by an arrogant and patronising email sent by a male contact and a female work colleague was suggesting how I could respond – in an ideal world. It did get me thinking that

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Preview: Circus of Men

Cliterati was rather excited to hear about Circus of Men – apparently “London’s newest, most erotic, sexual and dynamic all male show, featuring the UK’s most spectacular and jaw dropping male performers. From cute ‘boy next door’ to all out, dirty, tattooed cover-guys, it accommodates an audience with extraordinary taste and class and rockets the

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Book Extract: Timeless Desire by Lucy Felthouse

Emily received some strange looks and frowns from the people she passed as she walked across the graveled drive towards the front entrance of Westbury Hall. She could appreciate their confusion. It was closing time for the stately home and the last of the visitors were being politely ushered out of the building, yet she

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Intersectionality

As I’ve previously explained, a large part of the process of writing my blog (and these Cliterati essays) consists of scanning Twitter (and emails from readers) for likely stories to write about: The majority of sex work-related items end up in my weekly “That Was the Week That Was” [TW3] news summary, which normally appears

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Sprechen sie Deutsche?

Everybody looks the same, or so the song says. But European travel – which I hadn’t done for a few years – proves it. A few years ago one could go to a typical Spanish, Greek, Italian or French hotel/complex and be able to pinpoint, from hairstyles and clothes alone, a person’s nationality. Now we

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Erotica: The Futility of Resistance by Cheeky Minx

It begins on this night. It begins on this night with a word, with a look. It begins with one syllable, more growled exhalation than utterance coherently spoken, released from your lips in a way that ignites the crisp air hanging low, that has me struggling to contain my desire, my need to reach out

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Cardboard Cutouts

To those who aren’t sex workers and don’t make a full-time job out of following the developments in our  persecution, it must sometimes seem as though I’m exaggerating the awfulness of the situation.  Furthermore, those same people may not think the difference between decriminalization (as practiced in New Zealand) and legalization (as practiced in The

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Ann Summers Launches Sex Position Guide

A new sex position guide written exclusively for Ann Summers by Cliterati founder, sexpert and author Emily Dubberley has been launched on the Inspire Me’ section of the brand’s website. The newly-launched ‘Inspire Me’ content ‘hub’ features tips and guides on all things sex, as well as behind-the-scenes action from Ann Summers HQ alongside informative,

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On the (school) run

I walk briskly through the school gates, my head down, trying to avoid eye contact with any of the parents waiting outside. I also try not to stand too close to anyone, just in case they smell that I’ve recently downed two or three glasses of red wine. I tuck a bedraggled strand of hair behind

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Let Me Help

Last November a reader asked me to explain my view on “sex trafficking”.  She wrote, “I…understand your disdain for people who assert that no educated person could ever choose the life of a prostitute, and I understand that most people who work for anti-human trafficking orgs assert that every single sex worker needs to be saved from herself,

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