Wise Counsel From Susan Quilliam: He’s so big!

Dear Susan
 
Help! My new man is, shall we say… big. We’ve not had full intercourse, though we’ve had a great time playing around. But I’m wary whether it will hurt when we get down to the good stuff. Any tips?
 
Lucy
Dear Lucy
Don’t panic. If your man is that big, he’s probably used to girls being wary of his size and will be careful – although it’s always worthwhile warning him that you need to go slowly and gently.
When you come to the big moment, I’d also make sure you are fully aroused – which will mean your vagina enlarges so allowing him in more easily. Being relaxed is also key! Add in lots of lube for you and make sure he’s lubed-up too.
Then use the ‘girl on top’ position where he lies on his back, you lower yourself down. That way you stay in control and can take penetration at your own pace; once he’s inside, you can still control the pace and speed. As you get more confident in him and in your ability to take him inside, you can both start to be more energetic!

Susan Quilliam also offers email, phone and face-to-face coaching on relationship and sexuality issues. Contact her here.

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