Wise Counsel From Susan Quilliam: I truly am too small

Hi Susan
I bet you get this from guys all the time, but I’m worried about the size of my cock. In my case, though, I’ve got reason to worry. I’m really small. I mean really small – when erect only two inches. I’ve had some very hurtful comments from girls I’ve slept with, to the point where after just one night they typically they don’t want to see me again or I don’t want to see them. In desperation, I have to admit I’ve had a lot of casual sex – but I still can’t find a girl who’s OK with who I am. Will I ever get a relationship where size doesn’t matter?
Sean
 
Hi Sean
I think the answer to your question lies in your very last sentence. I think you have every chance of finding a relationship where size doesn’t matter – but you’re less likely to find that with casual sex.
I don’t think there’s anything wrong with leaping into bed with someone you’ve only just met. I do think that if you have an issue – and I mean your worry about your penis size, not the size itself – then before you put yourself in danger of being rejected, you need to be very sure of the person who might be doing the rejecting,
In your case I wouldn’t be getting down and dirty without an emotional connection, and I wouldn’t be physically intimate without having a few in-depth discussions about my worries so that I knew that the girl in question not only knew those worries, but was capable of being sympathetic to them. And you’re not going to get that unless you’ve spent time with someone.
So I’d slow down. Have dates, where you learn about a potential partner and allow her to learn about you – including your vulnerability around your size. I think that’ll give you a much better response when the clothes come off.
[Ed: Remember that there are also many women out there who for various reasons prefer men who are less well-endowed, so if you take your time with potential partners you may well find someone who desires you for who you are…]
Susan Quilliam also offers email, phone and face-to-face coaching on relationship and sexuality issues. Contact her here.
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