News: Help Fund Hedonistic Fun at the Summer House Weekend

thesummerhouse_largeHosted at a private country house about an hour outside London over August 16th to 18th this year, The Summer House is a marvellously magical experience like no other. It starts a bit like a retreat – workshops, sessions, talks, treatments, games, swimming – and crescendoes into a private house party featuring fabulous performances, music, dancing, storytelling and late-night conversations in front of the log fire. With plenty of opportunities to learn together, dine together and play together, The Summer House is not only a great party but also a place to make meaningful and lasting connections.

When you come to The Summer House you’re more than just a guest: you’re part of an extended family of friends-of-friends. You’re home. The organisers believe in inclusivity, respect and community-building – because they want everyone to feel equally free to participate and express themselves.

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What You’ll Find

Workshops and talks: cuddle workshop; “Morning Glory” dance session; yoga; tantra; rope bondage; consent and communication; flirtation; talks on polyamory and relationships; contact improvisation; mask-making; hula-hooping classes

Activities: Lake swimming; tennis; badminton; croquet; giant Jenga; lawn Twister; boules; treasure hunts

One-on-one treatments and sessions: Massage; hair and make-up styling; photo portrait parlour; face painting; facials; spa treatments including seaweed soaks (extra charge to practitioner)

After dark: Cabaret/performances; music; DJs and dancing; a ceilidh; storytelling; poetry; multiple play areas with bathrooms; kink room; vintage cinema; log fires and a bonfire

What You Won’t Find

The Summer House Weekend is not a festival – which people have come to associate with mess, mud, dirty, long queues and disgusting food. It’s a private house party, intimate enough that everyone has a chance to meet everyone else.

If camping you may bring and cook your own food, but the organiser’s ask, “Please no open fires.” Alternatively you can feast with the food prepared by the Summer House Weekend’s team of chefs. A hearty dinner will be served on Friday night and a delicious light dinner of salads and soups on Saturday night (cost approximately £20-£30 per head). A cooked breakfast will be served on Saturday and Sunday mornings (cost around £5 per head). There are about three dinner servings per night; guests serve themselves from the banqueting table and can eat together – outside if the weather is good, inside if not. They can cater to vegans, vegetarians and those with dietary requirements, if given notice. In addition, independent street food chefs will supply healthy meals, tea, coffee and ice cream all day every day. Unless included in your reward, food costs extra. There will be an opportunity to make food reservations after the crowdfunding campaign is complete.

Getting to and from the House is easy. To ensure privacy and security, they do not publish the address of the House until 1-2 weeks before the party. It is approximately 35-45 minutes from London Waterloo by train on the line to Portsmouth. Or by car (close to A3/M3/M25) 40 miles / 75 minutes from central London. There is car parking at the house. Gates open 14:00 on Friday and close at 17:00 on Sunday. No arrivals after 22:00 Friday or 21:00 Saturday.  As they can only book coaches once the Kickstarter campaign is successful, they can’t confirm exact prices yet but they are likely to be £15 return, ie cheaper than the train.


Three accommodation options are available:

Sleep in the house – a very limited number available. On the private top floor, two double bedrooms with en-suite showers; two with no en-suite but access to two shared bathrooms. On the same floor as the party but still private, the suite suite featured in the video, big enough for four guests, with four-poster bed and en-suite bathroom. One accessible bedroom is available on the ground floor.
Glamping – sleep in a splendid 5m canvas bell tent from Blue Bell Tents, with bedding for 2, 3 or 4 people plus light and mirror, pitched ready for your arrival. Or a Shikar tent which is more like a room you can stand up in, complete with hanging rails and furniture.
Self-camping – pitch your own tent in the grounds of the house (we encourage you to decorate your camp!) No cars in camping area – campervans may set up in their own zone in the nearby parking They provide toilets, running water…and if the crowdfunding campaign generates enough income, showers too!

Who Can Attend

Adults over 18 can come provided that they stick to the code of conduct, which is designed to ensure that everyone feels welcome and safe whatever their age, gender identity, sexuality, disability etc. The organiser’s ask that everyone arrives and leaves accompanied by at least one friend who vouches for their behaviour and vice-versa. This is called the “PAL system” and is invented by KS San Francisco and licensed under Creative Commons. In short, no flying solo: simply team up with a friend or two who you know and trust and come with them.

If the organiser’s don’t yet know you or if you haven’t been sent in their direction by an existing friend they will ask you to introduce yourself so they can get to know all the guests. Expect to meet people from a wide range of alternative communities like Burning Man, Nowhere, Decompression, Rumpus, Secret Garden Party, KSL, AP, Night of the Senses, Sacred Pleasures, Wonderland, Planet Angel, TG, White Mischief, 5 Rhythms, the world of tantra, the dressup and vintage scene and more.

What You Get for Helping Fund the Event

All pledges of £25 or £50 include the reward of upgrading to a ticket at the Kickstarter prices any time up to July 8. It’s like a part-payment!

All pledges of £65 and above include the reward of some kind of ticket, as described to the right. The Indiegogo tickets are the cheapest possible “Earlybird” prices. After the Kickstarter, expect prices to go up to something like £75 for the Saturday night and £125 for the whole weekend.

If you want more than one perk, all you have to do is contribute to more than one option!

“THE BACKERS’ PACK” is included in all pledges of £60 and above and includes: Invitation to a celebratory London get-together in July • Your name or nickname as a credit on our website • Updates on the project • Access to a secret feedback group • A pack of music downloads from artists who have performed White Mischief • A pack of photo downloads from previous White Mischief events • Wallpaper downloads featuring Summer House illustrations • A memento book PDF inspired by the weekend.

BUT you don’t need to attend the Weekend to pledge! You can pledge any amount you like and you can choose the option marked “No perk, I just want to contribute”. You can also pledge on someone else’s behalf if they can’t afford it themselves.

Who’s Behind It?

The curator of The Summer House Weekend is Tobias Fauntleroy Slater, founder of White Mischief; the producer in charge of logistics is Ruth Dronfield of Humdinger; and helping put together the sessions and workshops is Faerie from Sacred Pleasures. In addition the team includes a wide range of people with experience in everything from events to roleplay and storytelling to kink, spirituality and self-development. Everyone who is getting involved is doing so because they’re passionate about the idea and want to be there themselves. The organisers won’t be taking a penny from this crowdfunding campaign.

In order to create something that is sustainable and has the requisite safety / security, the organisers will be paying professionals for their expertise. Some practitioners (eg massage therapists) may also charge extra during the weekend for one-on-one sessions that you can book separately. The main organisers make their income not from this crowdfunding but during the weekend, from selling drink and juices. Even still, it won’t be a huge amount for what is a big project to organise. They say, “The main thing we get out of this is the pleasure of seeing it happen.”

Find Out More, Buy Tickets, Fund the Event

The Indiegogo link is here

The Facebook page is here


See you there!


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  • Do they have a contact email? I’d like to find out how easy it’d be for me to get there and back. I understand they want to keep as much info private as possible, but if I could avoid travelling to London, that would be awesome =)

    Really getting into going to things like this right now.


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