It’s 40 years since female sexual fantasy has been accepted as existing, thanks to the wonderful Nancy Friday, who wrote My Secret Garden in 1973. At the time, the book was deemed shocking, and many women’s magazines denied that women had fantasies at all.
Thankfully, things have moved on since then. Four decades on, women aren’t just admitting to having fantasies, they’re also writing them down and some are even becoming millionaires as a result. But have their fantasies changed or are we eroticising the same things as our mothers and grandmothers before us? Have the changes in society affected what we think about, and how we use our fantasies? How close is reality to fantasy now that the internet makes all manner of assignations infinitely easier than they were four decades ago? Do we accept our fantasies more now than before, or is there still a stigma about female fantasies? Are we making our dreams come true – or still keeping our real desires to ourselves for fear of being judged?
Cliterati founder, Emily Dubberley, is investigating this in her latest book. If you’d like to add your voice to it, please fill in one of the following surveys (you can skip any questions that you feel uncomfortable about regardless of the survey you choose.) Please elaborate on your fantasies as fully as possible.
If you’re short on time, this simply asks you to give a brief description of yourself and as detailed a description of your most common fantasy as possible. If you are an erotic writer, feel free to include your website’s URL if you feel that will be useful – these will be included in the book as far as possible. Better yet, if you have the time. fill in the full Erotic writers questionnaire
If you’ve got a 15 min break, this is the perfect length to fill in, giving a little more insight into how you feel about fantasies
If you have lots to say about fantasies, choose this option – and earn much gratitude.
If you’re an erotic writer, this 20 point survey has been tailored for you. Feel free to mention your book(s) as well as blog/website.
The book aims to cover as diverse a range of women as possible, so please spread the word. Thanks in advance for any help.