Features: Six Sexual Resolutions for 2015

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  1. Fix It. The words on the suicide note of teenager Leelah Alcorn are a chilling reminder that transphobia still kills. People flocked to #RealLiveTransAdult to offer support to others in need but we need to do more. Join the Facebook group aiming to end transgender conversion therapy and find out how else you can support this important cause. Most importantly, be trans-inclusive. Gender is a spectrum, not a binary.

  2. Decriminalise it: Again and again, research shows that the Swedish model harms sex workers and decriminalisation is what sex workers worldwide want to help protect them from harm. It’s time we start listening to the people who really know about sex work: sex workers.

  3. Challenge it: New applications of the censorship laws are preventing huge amounts of people from sharing the sex that they enjoy – and disproportionately affecting feminist producers and niche business owners. How far do you want the government involved in what consenting adults watch and do?

  4. Question it: Too much of the sex research that we read about in the press is based on unscientific sources, and repeats ‘zombie stats’. Check out BadSexMediaBingo.com for some of the most common myths. Don’t believe the hype (at least until you’ve checked your sources).

  5. Include it: Sex research has been dominated by WEIRD science (Western, Educated, Industrialized, Rich, and Democratic). This gives a limited view. If you’re researching sex, be inclusive. If you’re reading about sex, don’t just read about it from one perspective. There is no single experience of sex, and many factors can feed into people desires, vulnerabilities and fantasies. There are some useful sexuality resources here (feel free to add more in the comments).

  6. Own it: Whatever your sexuality or gender, there is no need to feel ashamed of who you are. Do not try to force yourself to be someone you’re not to please other people. There are numerous great support groups out there if you feel unable to share with those closest to you – and Scarleteen is an amazing teen resource (that’s also useful for adults). And don’t think you have to have sex at all: asexuality is part of the sexuality spectrum.  You are the only person who truly knows what you want – or don’t. Be proud of who you are.

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