Welcome to Cliterati: the site founded by women and created for women, which dares to admit that women like sex too. However, you don’t have to be a woman to enjoy – or contribute to – the site. You can be of any gender, sexuality, relationship type, ability – the only limit is that you must be over 18 (or the age of consent in your country of origin). This site is designed for adults, so if you’re under-age visit Scarleteen instead.
Cliterati was created on August 31st 2001 as a free sex website for women. Since then, thousands of people have added their stories to the site, submitted their sexual problems, shared their most intimate thoughts – and had a lot of orgasms. We like orgasms. They make us happy. And they seem to make lots of other people happy too.
Cliterati was created before Sex and the City had shot the Jessica Rabbit to fame. Before Two Girls ever considered sharing One Cup. Before 50 Shades of Grey introduced kink into the mainstream. We were providing erotica for free to thousands of women per month at a time when that act was still taboo enough to generate hate mail and rape threats.
This may sound dramatic, but it’s a clear sign of how far the perception of sex has moved on in the last decade (for a full description of the launch of Cliterati, along with stories from numerous sexual pioneers, see Naked Ambition: Women Who Are Changing Pornography)
Now, Girl With a One Track Mind, Suzanne Portnoy and Belle de Jour have contributed to popular perception of women’s sexuality. Xcite Books is one of the fastest-growing publishing imprints around, offering e-books galore and a genuinely innovative approach to erotica. We’ve had Slut Walks and debates on the politics of using the word cunt. In short, the world is very different than when Cliterati first began. It knows that women like sex – but the sexual revolution is far from over.
Cliterati is still providing fantasies for free. We always have.We always intend to, giving you the best selection of masturbation material we can. (We are funded through our shop, so please do buy your toys from it if you want Cliterati to last another decade). We won’t include anything to do with kids, animals, abuse or non-consensual violence. However, you can find tales of seduction, submission, group sex, lesbian and bisexual experiences, domination, man-on-man lust and a whole lot more in the fantasies section; exhibitionism, analingus, fisting… if it’s consensual (including consensual non-consent), we’ll include it.
We’ve got fantasies that run across the entire Kinsey sexuality scale, from totally straight to totally gay. There are romantic fantasies and hardcore BDSM fantasies – not forgetting romantic BDSM fantasies, of course. Some stories involve one person, others involve group fun, with pairings and threesomes of all kinds along the way. Some stories use gentle language, others use Anglo-Saxon at its most guttural: we don’t opt for a consistent style because everyone’s fantasy mind works in a different way. One woman’s meat is another woman’s throbbing cock. We aim to represent as many different fantasies as possible (excluding underage activity, non-consensual acts and animals as we believe in informed consent). Why not add yours to the site?
When it comes to sex, there’s an infinite variety to explore, and our features section will help you do so safely. Whether you want an introduction to the fetish scene, advice on introducing fantasies to your relationship or tips on how to get exactly what you want in bed (and give your lover an amazing time too) our team of writers are sex educators of the highest calibre who are here to help.
Then there are reviews. With the toy market growing day by day, it can be hard to know what to choose. We’ve tested hundreds (possibly thousands) of erotic products between us – with more coming every day – and keep ourselves informed about all the latest innovations. As a declaration of interest: we do receive almost all toys for free from the sites selling them or the toy manufacturers directly (though sometimes we’ll review something from our own private toyboxes because it’s so fab). However, we won’t recommend any toy unless we genuinely believe it’s worth playing with – if we don’t like a toy, it doesn’t get reviewed; and we take more into consideration than just the way it feels.
Our favourite toys are pthalate free (because pthalates have been linked to reproductive disorders and cancers); eco-friendly (because it’s good to love the planet as you love yourself); and devoid of porntastic packaging (because there’s no need for it nowadays). That’s not to say we’ll omit toys that fall outside these categories but if we have any area of concern, you can rest assured we’ll flag it up – and we’ll never accept money for giving a product a positive review. If we say a product is great, it’s because we genuinely believe that it is. And it’s not just toys. Erotic fiction, sex manuals, boudoir accessories and erotic events are just a few areas we cover. If we think a product will be beneficial to sex, relationships or (better yet) both, we’ll test it out and let you know the outcome.
We’ve also added sexy features, from style to science and psychology to performance; plus all the latest news and events on the scene.
It’s All About You
Most importantly, every section of Cliterati is open to submissions. If you’ve got a fantasy, feature or link, just post it as a comment and, as soon as we’ve edited it (because typos can be distracting when you’re indulging in self-pleasure – or maybe we’re just grammar fetishists) we’ll add it to the site. The more everyone contributes, the more everyone will benefit.
A brief note about safe sex and related matters
The Cliterati Team believe that safe sex is important. If contributing stories, please use protection as far as possible.It helps increase positive attitudes to condom use so you can help decrease STI rates while sharing your fantasy. (You can also help support people with cancer through fantasy by buying Ultimate Burlesque and Ultimate Decadence: erotica anthologies with all profits going to Macmillan Cancer Support.)
However, some of the fantasies on the site do include unsafe sex. While we urge you to practice safer sex in real life, some people fantasise about condom-free sex. If you’re one, we’d really love it if you can mention a couple are in a monogamous relationship, or everyone involved has been tested if you’re writing about unsafe sex. It only takes a brief mention and helps spread a sex positive message.
Even though we aim to be as responsible as possible, some of the fantasies on the site would still be foolish to attempt in real life. Please bear in mind that this is fantasy, not reality: picking up strangers can be fraught with risk; BDSM activites should only be entered into once the requisite guidelines are understood; and, generally, if you want to have fun, it’s worth using your brain as well as your body to keep yourself safe. The more we share good sex education and habits, the better sex will be for everyone.