Wise Counsel From Susan Quilliam: He chose work over me

Dear Susan   My partner and I planned our first dirty weekend together down to the last romantic detail – we got a wonderful country house hotel, with fantastic food, great country walks, champagne on ice, the works. So imagine my shock when he got a phone call half way through to say he was

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Wise Counsel From Susan Quilliam: My flatmate’s noisy sex

Hi Susan   I share a flat with another guy and we normally get on really well and look out for each other. But he’s just got a new girlfriend after being single for a while, and they have sex all the time, and very noisily. It actually turns my stomach a bit – to

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Wise Counsel From Susan Quilliam: How can I climax her way?

Dear Susan   I love sex, and I love coming – but I was talking with my girlfriend the other day and what she described is nothing like what I experience. Mine is really focussed round my genitals whereas hers is more a tingling through her whole body. What’s the difference, and how can I

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Toy review: Pasante Bullet Lube and Pasante Extra-Large Condoms

After a quick count I was surprised to learn that I currently have in my possession thirteen different brands of sexual lubricant, each brand with multiple products: flavoured and coloured lube, paraben-free and organic lube, luxury lube, scented lube, oil, silicone and water-based lube and lube designed to look like spunk. They come in pump-action

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Wise Counsel From Susan Quilliam: We’re not in the same time zone

Dear Susan Great girlfriend, great sex, great love life. But I get randy in the morning and she just wants to get up and go to work… then at night when she’s relaxed and ready I’m knackered from a heavy day. How can we solve this ‘time lag’ problem?   Rob Hi Rob Interestingly, you’re

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Wise Counsel From Susan Quilliam: I’ve sworn off sex

Hi Susan Just before Christmas I broke off my engagement, and to be honest have had it up to here with men. So I’ve decided that at least until the end of 2013, I’m going to stay celibate – I just don’t want to be bothered with bonking for a while, let alone start a

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Wise Counsel From Susan Quilliam: I want to find a woman for my man

Dear Susan My man and I share a fantasy of my finding another woman and ‘training her up’ for him. I’d show her just what he likes and what he needs her to do in order to please him, then we’d have an amazing night together. He and I have dreamed about this a lot,

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Wise Counsel From Susan Quilliam: Will getting married put an end to getting laid?

Dear Susan Getting married in six weeks’, really looking forward to the wedding, and dying to be wed to my beautiful princess. But the lads keep telling me that once we’re hitched, that’ll be it in the bedroom department. Any guidance on how to keep things hot for life?   Dermot Dear Dermot My first

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Wise Counsel From Susan Quilliam: He can’t keep his eyes to himself

Hi Susan I love my man to bits, but there’s one habit of his that I really hate. If we’re walking down the street or in the car he keeps checking out other women. I’ve told him I hate it, and he says he’ll stop, but after a while he forgets and starts again. (I’m

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Wise Counsel From Susan Quilliam: Which man should I choose?

Dear Susan My situation I’m is the absolute extreme of “It’s complicated.” I started off dating Justin and so began hanging out with his crowd. When I ended our relationship, I very soon started going out with J’s best friend Stuart, and though that rocked the social situation a bit, we all kept seeing each

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Toy Review: Top Three Secret Sex Toys

Forbidden Fruit by Rianne S As much as I would love to be completely impartial with regards to this item, I have a soft spot for Rianne S products before I’ve even tried them. This is because they just scream quality and taste, from the toys themselves right through the imagery, design, packaging and beyond

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Wise Counsel From Susan Quilliam: Is he kidding about coming?

Hi Susan My boyfriend said the other day that I really shouldn’t be bringing myself off as it would make me go blind. I’m pretty sure he was joking – but was he? Or does he just not want me pleasuring myself in case I decide I don’t need his services any more? Surely there’s

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Wise Counsel From Susan Quilliam: How many is too many?

Dear Susan My new partner and I were swapping notes about how many men we’d slept with, and I realise that I’ve had a lot more partners than he has. I therefore cut down the number I told him in case he was shocked. Now I’m stuck – I haven’t been honest with him, but

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Wise Counsel From Susan Quilliam: I think we’re at the end…

Hi Susan My husband and I have been having a rough time lately – lots of arguments, hardly speaking and certainy no sex or cuddles. We’ve talked a number of times about splitting up, and always pulled back from the edge. But the other night I was lying in bed beside him, hearing him breathe

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Wise Counsel From Susan Quilliam: I really don’t want to get naked

Dear Susan It’s a while since I last had full sex with a man, but there’s now someone in my life who I’m pretty sure it’s going to happen with. Thing is, I’ve put on a huge amount of weight over the past two years and am just not comfortable with him seeing my body.

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Wise Counsel From Susan Quilliam: I sexted my sister

Hi Susan   I can’t believe I did this… but three days ago I pressed the wrong key on my contacts and sent a very naughty text meant for my girlfriend (Emma) to my sister (Emily) instead. I haven’t heard from my sister since and am too embarrassed to get in touch. What do you

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Toy Review: Pillows Foreplay: Jimmy’s Girls/Guys/Gays

What would you say if I told you that one of the most innovative adult toys I’d seen in the last few years was an inflatable sex pillow? It sounds extremely improbable, but that’s the somewhat surprising conclusion Mr Roger More and I came to after extensive and rigorous testing of the Pillow Foreplay. To

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Wise Counsel From Susan Quilliam: My man’s just told me he fancies men

Dear Susan I think my world has just come to an end. My partner has just nervously told me that he’s bi, and in the past has slept with men as well as women. We’ve been together six months and I was absolutely besotted with him – but now I don’t feel I know him

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Wise Counsel From Susan Quilliam: Does screaming mean she’s come?

Hi Susan, I’m with a new partner and our sex life is great… at least, I think it is! She makes a huge amount of noise during the whole thing, particularly at the end, and up to now I’ve assumed that this means she’s orgasming at the same time as I am. But the other

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Wise Counsel From Susan Quilliam: My partner hates my pussy

Hi Susan I really care for my man, and our sex life is OK. But apparently my genitals put him off. I do have very big labia, and he feels they’re not feminine.  I’m thinking of saving up for surgery to have my labia altered and he seems really up for that. I’ve never had

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Preview: Join Erotic Meet Creative Arts’ panel of experts to learn all about the pleasure product industry

Join our panel of experts to learn all about the pleasure product industry. Then try your hand at designing your own! Friday, 1st March 19:00 – 23:00 We’ll be discussing; The history of pleasure products. Toys of today – current trends and how the market has evolved. How to design your own, from the initial

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Wise Counsel From Susan Quilliam: I just know he’s going to propose!

Hi Susan, Jed and I have been together for a year. He’s planned a huge thing for Valentine’s – chauffeur car, upmarket restaurant on the river – and keeps saying that he has a big surprise for me. But I’ve got a horrible feeling that the surprise is a ring. I love him very much,

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Wise Counsel From Susan Quilliam: He gets hard – but not with me!

Dear Susan My boyfriend and I have been together three months and everything’s fine apart from his erection. He gets it up at the start of sex, but when we’re ready for penetration everything dips. I was sort of coping with this until last weekend when it came out that he can get a perfectly

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Toy Review: Top Three Dildos for Valentine’s Day Gifts 2013

Laid D.1 Stone Dildo There is nothing I don’t like about this item: from the classy eco packaging to the beautiful natural look and feel of the stone, just as Vibrator Kingdom sits comfortably towards the top of my favourite five online adult stores, their Laid D.1 Dildo also features highly in my all-time top five sex toys.

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