Wise Counsel From Susan Quilliam: Does she prefer her vibe to me?

Dear Susan I’ve just started going out with my girlfriend, and was a bit startled when she told me she uses sex toys a lot – her bedside drawer is full of vibrators. I’m completely unused to partners who use additions and wonder if that means she’s going to be unhappy with my performance or

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Wise Counsel From Susan Quilliam: Should I let him take a lover?

Dear Susan, For as long as I can remember I haven’t been much interested in sex, and so when I met my husband it seemed like a perfect fit because he didn’t need much either. We have the most fabulous relationship, we are each other’s best friend, we love each other’s company – it’s perfect.

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Wise Counsel From Susan Quilliam: Sex tips for Girlfriend’s Birthday

Dear Susan   I love my girlfriend to bits and though we can’t be together on her birthday, I want to give her the night of her life when we do meet at the weekend. Any ideas?   Sean Dear Sean Where to start? There’s so many things that you could do here that it

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Erotica: I Was a Bisexual Schoolgirl by Liza

My partner D is very into role play. He’s a fantasist and he loves to spin tales. We’ve tried our hands at a few different scenarios, but he really seems to like situations involving school. You might already see where this is going. It began when I received an unexpected package at work one day.

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Toy Review: Top Three Vibrator Wands 2013

NB: Click here for a 2015 version of Cliterati’s preferred plug-in wands (which also mentions the items below, so please do read this page too!). The Eroscillator 2 Deluxe The Eroscillator may not be the best-looking sex toy – in fact, I think it’s potentially the ugliest I’ve seen – but it’s got a great personality and a fantastic sense of

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Wise Counsel From Susan Quilliam: Am I Gay?

Dear Susan I’ve always fancied girls as well as boys, and have had some one-night stands and a few longer relationships over the years with women as well as with men. But now I’m deeply involved with a guy. He knows about my leanings, but we are very much in love and he is even

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Toy Review: Top Three Kinky Valentine’s Day Gifts

Labia Spreader With Stockings If there’s one post that’s been a surprise hit on my irregularvoice blog it’s the review I wrote for this very special hosiery, where stockings are held up by clipping them to the labia rather than a suspender belt. Economical and exceedingly slutty they leave nothing to the imagination – in a

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Wise Counsel From Susan Quilliam: I’ve been trolled!

Hi Susan I made a huge mistake last weekend – I posted on a sex forum about a problem I have. There are now 113 trolling comments on my post and I feel destroyed. I do know – well, at least I hope – that no one can track down who I am, but even

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Women Writing Desire and a (sort of) Call for Submissions by Liza

Back in October the women’s blogging powerhouse site BlogHer put out a call for submissions for an e-anthology of real life sex stories focused around the theme of desire. They asked for stories that put the reader in the moment, that communicate real, authentic desire. And then there was the hitch: “Submissions cannot be anonymous — that

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Erotica: The Surrogate by Cela Winter

Molly’s in Saint Paul, Troy is in San Diego—but maybe distance really is just a state of mind … It’s three minutes till ten. As usual, I’m sitting up in bed, a magazine open on my knees, and my phone within easy reach on the night stand. Not so usual are the other things lying

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Wise Counsel From Susan Quilliam: Can Women Really Climax Without Touch?

Dear Susan I’ve read it’s possible to climax without touch – but is it really? Surely you need some stimulation to get off? Anna Anna, Many people claim to have done this, but no-one’s ever created a foolproof, replicable, teachable way to do it all ‘no hands’. (Though in the States apparently an electronic implant

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Wise Counsel From Susan Quilliam: I Was Caught Taking Sex Toys Through Customs

Hi Susan I’m still shaking from what happened to me when I came back last week from visiting my lover in Conneticut. Of course I’d taken a few of our favourite sex toys with me, so we could celebrate the New Year in style. But on my way back through customs they took me apart

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Wise Counsel From Susan Quilliam: Should I make a porn film?

Dear Susan Tricky decision here. I’m very cool about porn, as is my (male) partner – we watch it together, though we tend to avoid the heavier end of the scene or if it involves violence. But we were at a party recently, got talking to a film-maker, and it turned out he makes soft-core,

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Wise Counsel From Susan Quilliam: My Partner Hits Me When He’s Drunk

Dear Susan I read your last week’s answer to the woman who wanted to leave her relationship because the sex wasn’t good. You advised her to hang on in there and get counselling. I’m in a similar situation, but the issues are slightly different and I’m way past the ‘six months and see’ threshold that

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Wise Counsel From Susan Quilliam: Should I go to a male escort like my girlfriends have done?

Dear Susan, This isn’t a Christmas question, but it is something that’s come up for me because of Christmas. I spent the day with some girlfriends – we’re all single – and courtesy of a large number of bottles of red wine over dinner, we started talking about using male escorts. Turns out two of

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Wise Counsel From Susan Quilliam: I just snogged my brother-in-law

Dear Susan, Oops. I went to my family for Christmas as usual, and as usual it was all a bit tense and I had a bit too much to drink. So after the big lunch, while everyone’s watching television, I pop upstairs to my old bedroom to get something – and a moment later my

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Toy Review: Doc Johnson Pucker Up Vibrating Clitoral And Vaginal Pump

  Having tried several pussy pumps in the past, each of which failed in some way with regards to fit, suction ability, and, sustainability (ie: one particular product actually fell apart in our hands), it was with some trepidation that we approached the Doc Johnson Pucker Up Vibrating Clitoral and Vaginal Pump – not least because its

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Wise Counsel From Susan Quilliam: Which sex toy should I buy her?

Dear Susan, My darling new partner loves sex toys, so I’m planning to buy her one for her birthday. Problem is, she’s got so many that I don’t know what precisely to get… and no, I’m not going to give her a gift token. How can I choose? Lynsey Hi Lynsey Mmmm… there are gift

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Wise Counsel From Susan Quilliam: She didn’t ring me on Christmas Day

Hi Susan I’m in the middle of a very new and very passionate relationship. But the thing is is only two weeks old and so we felt we couldn’t break our Christmas commitments. Instead we agreed that we’d celebrate together last Sunday, that she’d travel on Christmas Eve to the country cottage she’s sharing with

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Wise Counsel From Susan Quilliam: I’m going to come clean to her parents!

Hi Susan, We’re spending Christmas Eve and Christmas night at my girlfriend’s house. But it really bugs me that her parents don’t know we’re having sex – or if they do they’re ignoring the fact. It’s mad – we’re in our mid twenties so you would have thought they’d be cool, but they give us

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Toy Review: My Top 12 Sex Toys of 2012

Wondering what sexy treat to get your lover for Christmas? Well luckily for you (and for me!) I’ve spent much of this year in pursuit of the perfect sex toy, and many testing hours later I’ve come up with my 2012 Top 12. You can thank me later. 1)      Wooden Dildo by The Kinky Drawer

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Wise Counsel From Susan Quilliam: He’ll be too smashed to get it up

Dear Susan, I’d love to have a romantic Christmas the same as everyone else does. But I know we won’t be making love on Christmas Eve… or Christmas Day… or Boxing Day… because my partner will drink far too much as he does every night, then as usual he won’t be able to get an

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Erotica: Customer Service (Part 2) by The Consultant

This is Part 2 of Customer Service. Read Part 1 here. It would never have occurred to me – professional as I am, and to the nth degree, too – that I would ever find myself in the small hours of the morning in a luxury suite at a West End hotel with my best

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Wise Counsel From Susan Quilliam: She Masturbates Several Times A Day

Dear Susan I know this is a role reversal, but as a man, I’m the one who’s worried because my girl’s needs so much sex. We make love at least once a day, but I also know she brings herself off at least three or four times a day even when I’m around. (I get

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