Features: The Joy of Sex – Naive Dream or Attainable Reality? by Susan Quilliam

It was just over 40 years ago – at the height of what was then called the Sexual Revolution – that a middle-aged British GP,  concerned about the anxieties and ignorance of his patients and inspired by a new and passionate relationship, decided to write a sex manual. The result – formatted to be a

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Features: Porn – We Want It! We Love It! by Ronete Cohen (Part 3)

Read part 2 here Some women prefer written erotica. But even that has evolved from the early days when it was considered controversial by some. When Emily Dubberley launched Cliterati, men accused them of being sluts, and women of being men because ‘no women would talk like that’, “but that’s been far outweighed by the

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Features: Porn – We Want It! We Love It! by Ronete Cohen (Part 2)

Read part 1 here Jackie Strano finds that women like all kinds of porn: gay porn, gonzo porn, amateur porn, and soft core porn. It’s different for each woman. Carlyle Jansen agrees. Storyline or no storyline, soft or edgy, who’s in it, the kind of sex that goes on – different women are looking for

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Features: Porn – We Want It! We Love It! by Ronete Cohen (Part 1)

Porn. We all have our preferences. But are we also open and honest about them? What do we really like? Ronete Cohen, psychologist and psychotherapist, investigates the ultimate female turn on. A bisexual 44 year old mother of 2 writes, “I think it is fair to say most people would not expect me to watch

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News: Why Stop the Traffik has Got It All Wrong by Brooke Magnanti

By now, most everyone will have seen Stop the Traffik’s recent “viral” in Amsterdam’s red light district, where bystanders who think they’re enjoying a show are suddenly broadsided with a ham-fisted social justice message about dancers supposedly trafficked into the city’s numerous licensed kammers. It’s slick. It’s attention-getting. It’s basically Kony 2012 but for sex

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News: Design a Sex Toy for Lovehoney, Win £1,000 (and royalties)

Here’s a new competition designed to get your creative juices flowing. Lovehoney are launching a new competition to design a new sex toy where the winning design could be manufactured and sold worldwide. What is great about the competition is in addition to the prize money, the winning designer will also receive royalties for their

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News: Ig Nobel

On Thursday night, September 12, the 2013 Ig Nobel Prize winners will be announced — and showered with applause and paper airplanes — at Harvard University.  They will be honoured for achievements that first make people LAUGH, and then make them THINK. This will be the 23rd First Annual Ig Nobel Prize Ceremony.  Organised by

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Book Extract: Sweet Torments – The Best of Alex Jordaine

Peter was still all on his own in the villa although he knew that wouldn’t be the case for much longer. He would be watching and wanking again very soon; he would be being the complete voyeur, but at the moment he was listening. And very intently too, from the open door of the unlit

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Wise Counsel From Susan Quilliam: Is My Fiancé Being Unfaithful?

Dear Susan, My wedding’s planned for two months’ time, but I think my fiancé is being unfaithful to me. He’s working late a lot and when I walk into the room he clicks the computer off. I’ve tackled him about it but he gets cross, says I’m imagining things and tells me he still loves

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Wise Counsel From Susan Quilliam: I’ve Gone Off Having Sex

Hi Susan, I’m a man in my twenties and all of a sudden, about two months ago, I completely went off sex. I love my girlfriend to bits but when it comes to desire, there’s none. I’m not under stress either – we’ve had a good summer, have been away for a month together and

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Wise Counsel From Susan Quilliam: Just Harmless Flirting in the Office?

Dear Susan, Mine’s a classic. I do fancy this guy at work. But it’s totally inappropriate for me to be starting anything with him. I’m married, he’s married, he’s much younger than me, and in any case we’d not last five minutes if we got together. So why do we have this whole email thing

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Wise Council From Susan Quilliam: Sex After Childbirth, Is It the End of Lovemaking?

Hi Susan, My darling daughter is a year old now, and I still don’t feel like having sex. My partner’s very patient, though he must be getting fed up with it – but there’s just no desire there any more and I can’t even think of myself as sexual. Is this the end of lovemaking

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Wise Council From Susan Quilliam: When Do I Disclose My Disability?

Dear Susan, I broke my back earlier this year in a skiing accident and am now in a wheelchair. I’m coping well physically though I know it’s unlikely I’ll ever walk again, and emotionally I’m fine. But my fiancé just couldn’t cope with it and a few months ago he called the wedding off and

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Book Extract: The Diary of a Submissive

My first taste of kink, like many people’s I suppose, came from a good sound spanking. I like to think I have a fairly good imagination. I certainly have, and I say this not so much with pride but as a statement of fact, a very dirty mind which means I’m more than happy to

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Wise Council From Susan Quilliam: Does He Love Me?

Dear Susan, I met Josh at a dance class. We spend a lot of time together, not just dancing, but regularly going for meals or drinks, and I love him to bits, but have always assumed he’s gay. But when I introduced him to one of my gay friends, he reckons that Josh is in

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Wise Council From Susan Quilliam: I’m Circumcised and Hate It

Hi Susan, I’m seventeen, I’m circumcised and I hate it. None of the three girls I’ve got naked with with have been with a circumcised man before and so have been odd about it. I also got really bullied about it at primary school and even now am often the only cut guy in the

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Wise Council From Susan Quilliam: I’m Scared About My Daughter Growing Up in Today’s Society

Dear Susan, I’m giving birth to my first baby in two months, we know we’re having a girl, and we’re over the moon. But weirdly, I’ve started noticing just how pressured things are for girls – particularly very young girls – growing up nowadays. I see seven or eight year olds dressed like hookers, hear

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Wise Council From Susan Quilliam: I Want to Go Away With my Parents, Not my Partner Too

Hi Susan, I’ve been Sam for six months and he’s lovely. But I’ve got a holiday planned with my parents in the autumn and he’s hinting strongly that he wants to come along. I enjoy spending quality time with my family and I’d feel torn having Sam there too. I’ve offered to go away with

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Wise Council From Susan Quilliam: I Forgave and Forgot, But am I Over His Affair?

Dear Susan, I’ve read recently that Jules Oliver checks Jamie’s texts and emails in case he’s got admirers. Cue my muttering ‘absolutely’ under my breath. Because I too regularly check my man’s comings and goings – he had an affair a few years ago, and although it was completely unimportant and we put it behind

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Web: Nursing Clio

A new collaborative blog, Nursing Clio, has launched that aims to explore political, social and cultural issues surrounding gender and medicine. Subjects such as abortion, birth control, and the reproductive rights of men and women, are covered, with an emphasis on how they sit in society today, and considering how views, attitudes, and legislation towards

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Wise Counsel From Susan Quilliam: Knowing a Secret, Should I Tell?

Hi Susan, I’m gay but my oldest friend is a straight guy – we get on really well, have lots of interests in common and I also like his wife. Last week when she was away for the weekend I invited him out for a night on the town with me and my friends –

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Wise Counsel From Susan Quilliam: I’m Silent When I Climax, Am I Weird?

Dear Susan, A very quick question. I can climax fine on my own and with a partner. But I can only really do it if I lie very, very still – no noise, no movement, not even breathing sometimes. I’ve had some funny looks from partners when I explain this but most are fine about

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Wise Counsel From Susan Quilliam: Will He Ever Be Mine?

Dear Susan, I’ve been with Tom for about a year now, and knew from the start that he was in an unhappy marriage, but he was staying because of his little girl. I’ve never nagged him about that, never tried to persuade him to leave, even though I wanted him to. In the end things

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Wise Council From Susan Quilliam: I Should Have Spoken Sooner

Dear Susan, As a teenager I was sexually abused for several years by my cousin. I hated it, but didn’t want to tell my parents as I knew they would worry. I do feel I’ve got over it, with the help of good friends and by seeing a counsellor, and no longer look back in

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