I started having sex about three months ago and have had it with my boyfriend about twenty times. At first it hurt but now it doesn't except when I'm on top. Sex has never felt good though and I don't understand why. When he fingers me it feels really good but not sex. Can anyone help me with this problem?

Cliterati repliesThis sounds like a combination of a (possibly) large partner and a lack of lubrication. For sex to be fun for both of you, it's important that you're both aroused. Spending more time on foreplay will help. You may find that asking him to perform oral sex on you first - either to orgasm or until you are aroused enough to really want him inside you will help.Take things slowly. Don't feel like you have to take him inside you in one go - or even fully inside you at all. Only take as much as you are comfortable with. Sex is about two people, not one, and if you tell him that it hurts to take more then he should understand. If not, he's being insensitive.Like anything, it takes time for sex to feel good. Don't feel like you've got to know everything. When your partner does something that feels good, tell him. And similarly, if it hurts, tell him.Masturbating during sex may help; only a quarter of women achieve orgasm through penetrative sex alone. And your partner will probably love it too - it's a huge compliment that you're relaxed enough with your partner to share this intimate act with him.Don't worry. Sex does get better with time. Communication, relaxation and being aroused enough before you get down to it should all help.