Though I've had sex regulary with different partners I've never been able to orgasm, and all my friends have been able to through masturbation - which I've tried over and over and I never seem to be able to get the hang of it. I've tried loads of different methods but never been able to orgasm. I've had my boyfriend masturbate me, and thought I enjoy it I never reach climax, and I won't let him give me oral as I'm not confident about it. I've never actually experienced an orgasm though I seem to have tried almost everything - Is there something wrong with me?

Cliterati repliesOnly a very small percentage of women have a physical reason why they can't achieve orgasm. However, 10 to 15 per cent of women have never achieved orgasm - and only 25 per cent of women achieve orgasm from penetration alone. Additionally, a third to half of women experience orgasm infrequently, so you are by no means alone.The most common reason for Anorgasmia (not achieving orgasm) is performance anxiety. Is there any reason why you may feel uncomforatble about sex, be it being told as a child that it was dirty or some unpleasant sexual experience? If so, it may be worth seeking some form of counselling. It may be embarrassing but there's no stigma attached to seeking help nowadays; a huge amount of people undergo counselling at some stage in their lives.It could also be related to your lifestyle. Orgasm inhibitors include alcohol, drugs and even lack of sleep.One fantastic book that may help is A woman's guide to sexual self pleasure. This details many masturbation techniques as well as giving lots of details about the body.Relaxation is key to achieving climax. It's far easier to come with a partner if you've already climaxed on your own. Many women find that oral sex is the easiest way to climax with a partner. There's no need to feel bad about it - though you're quite normal in feeling underconfident about it as many women do to start with. If you're concerned about the smell (which most men love) then start with a sexy shower. If you're really concerned, it may be worth going to the doctors. They're used to dealing with all kinds of questions so there's no need to be embarrased.