I've always been very confident about my appearance, except when it comes to sex. You see i have a very embarrassing problem...really long outer labia. I know they come in all shapes an sizes and there is no 'normal' size, but I still find it makes me really self conscious as they're so long. It sounds silly, but I can't help feeling like less of a woman because of it. My friend said I can have a surgical operation to have it shortened, is this true? I've just started dating a new man and am delaying having sex with him because of it. I can't tell him the problem, but i'm really anxious about him seeing me naked. Please help!

Cliterati repliesMany women (and men) feel uncomfortable about the size and shape of their bits. Whilst there are operations to change the appearance of your labia, they are not to be taken lightly. It may well be that your concerns are more down to general confidence levels.If you are serious about wanting surgery, the first step is to visit your GP. In extreme cases, they may be able to refer you for treatment. However, they will also be able to talk through your decision and give you all the facts.You may well find that you are far more concerned about the way your labia looks than your partner is. He may well be too busy worrying about the size and shape of his penis to even notice! However, if you really are worried then seeking medical help is an important first step.For more information on plastic surgery, visit the British Association of Plastic Surgeons.