I have this problem, I don't seem to be able to orgasm even after lots of penetration, a little clit touching and plenty of external stimulation too. When I was with a long term partner, he would spend the time to rub my clit until I orgasmed, I am hoping I don't need this every time - will not be much fun! Can you offer any advice?

Cliterati repliesOnly 25 per cent of women achieve climax through penetration alone and clitoral stimulation is by far the easiest way for the majority of women to come. However, there are ways to speed climax along.Masturbation during sex, which many women find easiest when having sex 'doggy style' can often help. Similarly, incorporating a sex toy into your lovemaking can make orgasm easier. You may find it easiest if you have an orgasm before you get into penetrative sex, through oral sex or manual stimulation. This can take the pressure off to climax - and pressure is one of the worst things when it comes to achieving orgasm.Some women swear by fantasising during sex, either on their own or articulating the fantasies with a partner. Getting the mind as well as the body aroused can lead to much better sex. However, tread carefully - take the fantasy bit by bit to make sure your partner is into it. Suddenly mentioning that you want to be tied up and whipped at an orgy when the most you've ever said before is that you'd like to wear sexy undies may come as a shock to your partner!Vary the positions you use to see if they make a difference. Some women find deep penetration can hit the spot because they like their cervix being stimulated. Others find it painful. Similarly, some women get great orgasms from G-spot stimulation whereas others get no sensation at all. As the clit is the thing that really gets you going, try Coital Alignment Technique; like the missionary but with your legs straight and your partner lying flat on top of you. Your partner then moves up slightly, once he's inside you and rocks back and forth rather than thrusting. As orgasm approaches, don't 'chase' it, just carry on rocking and you may well find that you achieve orgasm. Generally, the more warmed up you are before you start, the higher your chances of climaxing during sex. Spend lots of time on foreplay, vary the position, incorporate masturbation or toys and you should find something that hits the spot.