My girlfriend and I have been together almost two years and from the start have been shagging like rabbits. She told me she never enjoyed sex until she met me and now she loves it. I don't see myself as experienced, but I know how to turn her on (G-spots, clit, oral...)
However, recently having sex for her has become, well, difficult. She finds it hard to get horny, though she talks and thinks about sex all the time and it's only when we finally get down to some oral sex or some good old fingering that she gets really hot and wild. She then begs me to go inside her and when I do she says she enjoys it, but the horniness goes and it just kinda stops for her. Could this be down to stress, as she does get worked up when she has deadlines. Could it be that she is too worried about 'being good' or am I just not good enough?
Also she can't take a compliment. I tell her she is beautiful with as much sincerity as humanly possible and she just shrugs it off! I know loads of women who love those things! HELP ME PLEASE.

Cliterati repliesOnly 25 per cent of women climax through penetration alone but this increases to nearer 90 per cent if there is over 30 minutes of foreplay. Stress can certainly inhibit arousal and orgasm, as can excessive alcohol, drugs, lack of sleep, performance anxiety or a myriad other things.As you've already figured out, the clitoris is dead important with sex and penetration stimulates it less than oral or manual stimulation.So, what to do? First, when she's begging you to come inside her, make her wait some longer. Take her to the point when she's right on the edge before you penetrate her - or give her an orgasm first. Having an orgasm through penetrative sex is lovely but by no means essential, or even that common.However, you may find the Coital Alignment Technique helps. This is a variation on the missionary position but instead of being raised above her, you lie flat on top of her, taking as much of your weight on your elbows as you possibly can. Then rock slowly up and down, so that your penis is rubbing against her clit. It's known to increase orgasm during sex massively so is well worth a try. (You can also try it with her lying flat on top of you.)In terms of compliments, loads of women find it hard to accept them - it's an insecurity thing - but keep on telling her how gorgeous she is anyway. Even if she seems to be shrugging it off, chances are she's secretly really happy to be told how wonderful she is.