I've been seeing my boyfriend for about three months. We're students and live in different cities so we only get to see each other at weekends. The problem is our sex life. It's not bad, anything but! The only problem is that he never cums. He is always so intent on pleasuring me and I always have a wonderful time. We've discussed it and he says that it's not a problem and always changes the subject and immediately asks me if I'm OK. It's now starting to bother me slightly though. I'm not that sexually experienced and I’m wondering if the fact that he never reaches orgasm is a reflection on me.

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It sounds to us like he may generally have problems achieving orgasm. If this is the case, he should go to the doctors and get it checked out. It could be physical or could be psychological. Maybe he doesn't like feeling out of control? Some men have a hard time reaching orgasm so don't feel bad - or make him feel bad - about it.Of course, it's always good to find out what your partner likes so you could try asking him (away from the bedroom) if there's anything he'd like you to do that you haven't done together yet. If you feel comfortable with his suggestions, give it a go. Maybe there are certain things that trigger orgasm for him. Do you know if he achieves orgasm when he masturbates? If he does, you could consider masturbating in front of each other so you can both learn about each other from watching what you do to yourselves.Remember, orgasm isn't the be all and end all of sex so if you're both enjoying it then don't stress too much.