My boyfriend thinks that I am too horny and that I want sex all the time, which is not true. I think I have a healthy appetite and he is just too lazy. Most of my friends get it quite a lot from their boyfriends so I feel a little left out and very frustrated. We are only 20 and should be doing it more - that's what I think anyway. Sometimes we argue about it and I'm worried it might cause problems.

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There's no 'right' amount to have sex - every individual is different and it's very common for a couple to have mismatched sex drives. In fact, it's one of the most common problems we get submitted to the site, so you're by no means alone.Comparing notes with friends can often lead to problems. It's not a competition so there's no need to feel 'left out'. And remember, people don't necessarily tell the truth about what they get up to. Your friends don't matter - it's about you and your partner feeling happy.
It could well be that he has a lower sex drive than you. Try being affectionate without asking for sex. This will take the pressure off and, as a bonus, you may well find that you end up in the sack. Also tell him - away from the bedroom - that you would be happier with more sex and ask if there's anything you could do that would tempt him (NB: If he suggests something you don't feel comfortable with, don't feel obliged to do it). Try not to be argumentative about it. Just say that he's great in bed and sometimes you can't get enough of him - a bit of ego boosting can go a long way.Sex isn't the be all and end all in a relationship so if you're otherwise happy, stop asking for it for a while and you may well find you get it. Often couples can get into a cycle where one person is always asking for it and the other is always turning it down. This can lead to the first person feeling insecure and the second person feeling nagged. Not a situation that leads to great sex! Sex is fantastic but everyone has a different libido so don't feel like you are 'too horny' or he is 'too lazy'. You're just different but with a bit of effort you should both be able to get to a compromise.