My boyfriend is nine inches long and extremely thick. I'm quite small down below and we have continually tried to have sex. My boyfriend can only get about two inches in and then it hurts him because he says I tense up. I don't want to and am unaware of myself doing it. I was wondering if there was anyway of stopping myself from doing this and any tips as to how we can have sex such as good positions etc. Help!

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Big cocks can be the bane of a woman's life but there are a few easier ways to deal with them. First off, if he's only getting a couple of inches in then you could do with being more wet. Get him to go down on you before you have sex and generally insist on a lot of foreplay. If he's really that big then you may need additional lubrication too. Just don't use oil based lubrication as this can rot condoms.In terms of position, go for things that don't allow deep penetration as this will help allay your nerves and mean things don't get too uncomfortable. Try 'spooning' (lie on your side with your back to him and have him enter you from behind.) Missionary also means he shouldn't go really deep. Going on top may be OK, if you lie flat on top of him once you've got it in, rather than 'riding him' - and it puts you in control.Make him go very s-l-o-w-l-y, entering you inch by inch and only progressing once you've relaxed enough for him to continue. If you or he play with your clit at the same time then this will ease the way too.In terms of tensing up, if you bear down whilst he's entering you, as if pushing something out of your vagina, then it will stop you from tensing up as much as you are.He's got to realise that being equipped with a python of a trouser-snake will mean that he has to put more work into foreplay, as like it or not, the bigger the man, the wetter you need to be.