I was a virgin until the age of 19. This guy that I'm with is the one I lost it too. He's sexually experienced, I can tell, but why is it when he performs, these sexual acts, I can't really feel any sensations. When he inserts inside of me, I feel some but not really what I would expect, it's more like pressure, but no pleasure. I can't even orgasm. He asked me if I cum, and explained to me how it felt, if I did so. But it has not happened. Could it be something wrong with me,or what? He really cares for me, I can tell. But why is it that I can't experience these feelings that everyone else that you read about, or talk to, experiences.

Cliterati repliesFirst of all, stop worrying. Only between 25 per cent and 33 per cent climax through penetration so you're not the only one! Many people have a feeling of 'Is that it?' after their first few sexual experiences. Add to this the fact than many people feel uncomfortable discussing sexual problems and are more likely to say 'Oh yes, me, I come all the time.' than admit they too have orgasm problems, and you'll begin to realise that you're entirely normal. Chances are, you need a bit more clitoral stimulation as the clitoris is far more sensitive and has far more nerves than the vagina. To find it, put your finger near your vagina, then pull your finger upwards towards your pubes until you feel a 'nub' of flesh. Alternatively, start at the pubes and rub downwards until you reach it. Stimulating this - or getting your boyfriend to (and if he's experienced, he should be able to help you find it) - will help you get more pleasure. You may find that oral sex is something that will help you achieve orgasm too. If he hasn't already tried it on you, ask him to. It's definitely worth masturbating to find out what you like. Generally, women who regularly climax on their own are more likely to with a partner. If you're feeling brave, show him what you do when you masturbate. He'll love the show and be able to learn what gets you going. If you find a finger (or two) isn't enough, try using a sex toy as the vibrations may hit the spot (ideally from our sex toy shop). However, vibrators can take a bit of getting used to so don't be surprised if it doesn't immediately send you into orgasmic bliss.It may be that you're not aroused enough when he enters you. If you're remotely dry, a bit of lubrication can be a real help - either saliva or lube from the shop (never anything oil-based as it can rot condoms).If you're worried, chat to your GP. An extremely small percentage of women are unable to achieve orgasm, for either physical or psychological reasons, and your doctor will be able to help. You're lucky enough to have an understanding partner and we're sure that, with a bit of time, you'll be able to enjoy orgasms with him.