I lost my virginity to my boyfriend of six months. Everything was great, wonderful, but then, "What was that?" The condom split as my hymen broke. My boyfriend had not ejaculated and also said once he had taken the condom off he felt dry,as we were taking things so slowly and gently that he was only half in, so we presumed there was no pre-cum. After much deliberation with my mother, sister, friend and boyfriend, we think I'd be fine (and also under the influence of Bank Holiday so pharmacies are shut) But there's still a chance even though it would mean that it would not be fully effective and could give me annoying side effects. Do you think it's worth it? I would just like an outside opinion as it was my first time so it was all a bit wooo what's going on...oh pants.....:-)so what are the chances of me being pregnant? Oh and I am also only a week into my cycle.
Thank you for your time.
*confuzzled paranoia*

Cliterati repliesSorry to be boring but we'd say that you should get to the doctors/pharmacy as soon as possible (assuming you're still within 72 hours of having sex) and get the Morning After Pill. Pre-cum can contain sperm and it doesn't matter how far he was in, if he was hard enough to be aroused then there's a risk that there could have been pre-cum. You're taking a risk of pregnancy if you don't.You can now get the Morning After Pill at the chemist so it does make it easier. If you've got as good a relationship with your mum as it sounds, take her along - it may help you avoid being patronised by the pharmacist (some of them are lovely but some can be a nightmare)And how horrid is the Morning After Pill? Depends from woman to woman. Some women find it an entirely painless (if annoying) experience. Some women experience extreme nausea and vomiting (in which case you need to take it again). As you mention, it's better the sooner you take it and you have to make sure you take it according to the instructions for maximum effectiveness, but the pharmacist should explain all that (failing that, read the instructions thoroughly).If it's over 72 hours since you had sex, we'd recommend going to the doctor to discuss alternatives. It's also worth talking to the doctor about general contraception now that you're having sex. We'd recommend condoms all the way but you may also want an additional form of contraception because, as you've found out, condoms can split. You're not at high risk of pregnancy but unless you want to have a baby or are prepared to risk going through an abortion (which, regardless of where you stand morally, is something that many women find more traumatic than taking the Morning After Pill) then we'd say it's better to be safe than sorry.