I am 18 and have had sex once. I was very drunk at the time and I know how this must sound but I can't even remember the guy's name. Because I was so drunk and it was my first time, I couldn't really remeber/tell if he had put the condom on (I wasn't in a state to ask if I could inspect it). So the next day I took the morning after pill just to be on the safe side.

The thing is that when I woke up after having stumbled home my trousers had blood around the crotch area and I bled (only a small amount)all of the next day too. I am now worried that the next time I have sex(and it will be with somebody I love and I will be sober) it will be just as painful with the same result.

<b>Cliterati replies</b><br><p>Poor you! Don't feel bad about what happened; you're not the first and you won't be the last person to get drunk and have sex. However, you don't mention whether you were checked for sexually transmitted infections when you went to get the Morning After Pill. As you're not sure whether you used a condom, it's best to be on the safe side and most infections can be easily cured if they're caught soon enough.</p><P>That aside, will you ever have great sex? Yes. Many women bleed after their first time as the hymen often breaks (some women have already got a broken hymen). Pain and bleeding the first time is even more likely if your partner's drunk and not necessarily being gentle with you. It sounds to us like he didn't take things slowly enough and you may well not have been lubricated enough for it to be comfortable. </p><P>Next time you have sex, spend a long time on foreplay so that you're really aroused. You may even want to masturbate in front of your partner to make sure things are really firing on all cylinders. You could also use extra lube to make things more comfortable.</p><P>Once you're both aroused (and he's got a condom on!) take things slowly and gently, giving yourself time to get used to feeling the tip of his penis inside you before he slides in further.</p><P>With enough arousal and a gentle approach, you should be fine. However, if the bleeding continues, speak to your GP.</p>