I have never been able to make a guy cum, or even come close, with my mouth or my hands. With my mouth it's worse, I just don't know what to do. Please can you give me some tips as my boyfriend really pleases me and I want to be able to do the same for him.

Cltierati RepliesHave you actually asked him? You might be afraid to, but this really is the best way to find out what he likes. When you are getting down to it is usually not the best time, and you might feel a bit sensitive about any criticisms he makes then. Pick a time when you are having a meal or any other private time when you know you will be able to talk. The other bonus of this is that talking about sex invariably leads to the act itself, and what better way to put into practise everything you have learned? It is well worth having an honest conversation about this because some men find it hard to come in the presence of a woman because of awkwardness and a fear of letting go in front of someone. Talking about it may be a relief for both of you if this is the case.
We can give you some tips if you really feel you don’t know what to do though. When you are using your hand, make sure your grip is not too hard and move your hand up and down rhythmically. Use lubrication (spit or lubricant bought from the chemist - don't use anything oil based as it rots condoms) Try not to be too rough, especially if he is circumcised. The head or tip of the penis is very sensitive. Ask him if he would like you to used more pressure (In a sexy way!) If he has a foreskin, move this up and down with your hand. It may sound strange, but try imagining it is your penis and imagine how it would feel. Another good way of seeing for yourself exactly what to do is to get him to masturbate in front of you. This can be quite sexy in itself, and you will be left in no doubt afterwards of how to proceed!Blowjobs, if that phrase isn’t already misleading enough, can seem a whole lot more complicated than they really are. Basically, keep one hand on the penis, and put your mouth around the tip. It can be quite erotic for a man to have a woman gradually introduce his penis into her mouth, licking the end and putting more and more in each time in a rhythmic movement. Use the foreskin in the same way you did with your hand, using your hand and your mouth to pull it up and down the penis. Keep the same rhythm you use during sex, and as you progress it might be useful to imagine he is actually fucking your mouth. Remember that if you enjoy it, there’s a high chance he will, too.One way you could tackle this is by acting out a fantasy where you are a sex novice and he has the job of instructing you. If you like the idea, it could be a sexy way of improving your technique! Your boyfriend sounds like a considerate lover as he makes an effort to please you in bed, so I am sure he will be more than willing to help you do the same.