Wise Counsel from Susan Quilliam: I want my holiday fling to remain just that

Hi Susan I feel so stupid about this. I went on holiday with three girlfriends and we had an amazing time. But one evening towards the end of the holiday we all got hammered and I ended up spending the night on the beach with one of the reps. So far no problem, but… I’d

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Wise Counsel From Susan Quilliam: How can we keep cool while we’re getting hot?

Hi Susan I know you normally answer quite serious questions about sex, so you’ll maybe think this is a bit trivial. But can you give us some tips on how to make out in hot and humid weather. My girl and I are getting together this weekend – we’re at Uni at opposite ends of

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Wise Counsel from Susan Quilliam: Which contraception should we use?

Hi Susan I’m 24 and very happy with my boyfriend and our sex life. We’ve both been tested for STIs, so all we need take care of is contraception – and for the last three years I’ve been on the pill. But now I’d really like to come off it and use more natural methods.

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Wise Counsel From Susan Quilliam: He’s lost his mojo!

Dear Susan My husband and I have been together for four years now and everything’s wonderful; we’ve got a lovely house, our little girl is a year old and we’re very happy. But for the last few months my husband has suddenly had huge problems getting an erection – either with me or on his

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Wise Counsel From Susan Quilliam: Don’t make me give him oral sex

Hi Susan I’ve never liked giving men oral sex. Putting my mouth so near where their urine comes from seems to me to be a step too far, and the thought of swallowing cum is horrendous. But of the five partners I’ve had, 100% have wanted oral sex and one of them, my very first

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Wise Counsel From Susan Quilliam: How do I get her to commit?

Hi Susan I’ve been single for a while and before that I was in a relationship that wasn’t all that good for me. My partner never gave me much attention and really didn’t seem to value me. In the end, she left for someone else and I was devastated. Since then I’ve found it really

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Wise Counsel From Susan Quilliam: What’s wrong with my penis?

Hi Susan Quick question. I’ve started getting a lot of pain when I urinate, and some discharge from my penis. Can you tell me what’s wrong and whether there’s any medication I can get. I’ve tried looking this up on the web but there’s no definite answers. I can’t go to my GP because he

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Wise Counsel From Susan Quilliam: Am I being unfaithful?

Dear Susan I have never so  much as touched another man since I met my boyfriend six months ago. But he’s wobbling because I’ve now become really good friends with a guy at work. We spend every lunchtime together, have a regular arrangement to go for a drink on Wednesdays, and I really like his

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Wise Counsel From Susan Quilliam: I’m envious of my single friends

Hi Susan My two best friends have both recently had broken engagements – one left her fiancé, the other got dumped. At first I felt for them, and was sympathetic. But now they’ve recovered, are seeing lots of guys, are having a really good time – and my feelings are starting to get more confused.

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Wise Counsel From Susan Quilliam: Did she dump me for someone else?

Dear Susan Things have been unhappy between my girlfriend and I for a while. I myself have been on the point of calling time – so I wasn’t surprised that she did the deed two weeks ago. I was surprised when I popped round unexpectedly one evening to pick up some things and her flat

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Wise Counsel From Susan Quilliam: It wasn’t casual sex for me

Hi Susan I just got really put down by a guy I met at the weekend. We clicked in a club, went home together, but then – guess what – he didn’t call. When I eventually called him, he muttered something about both of us having agreed it was a one-night stand. I never agreed

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Wise Counsel From Susan Quilliam: Shall I sleep with my workmate?

Hi Susan Big decision coming up – shall I sleep with someone at work? We both at a financial services company, have been in the same team for about five months,;the attraction was instant (and, he says, mutual), and we’ve been on five dates. So far so good. But we’ve also had a long discussion

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Wise Counsel From Susan Quilliam: Should I take the job?

Dear Susan My wonderful girlfriend has just announced she’s in love with someone else. We’ve had a long-distance relationship for nearly two years and were planning to move in together over the summer when I finish Uni – I’ve got a job in the town where she is studying. But she’s started a relationship with

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Wise Counsel From Susan Quilliam: Can a pill give me back my va-va-voom?

Hi Susan I’m hearing rumours about a new pill that boosts desire for women. I’m struggling at the moment, as I’m working far too hard, under stress, and sex is the last thing on my mind. I haven’t got a live-in partner but do have some friends I sleep with. And it would be great

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Wise Counsel From Susan Quilliam: He goes to orgies

Dear Susan I’ve met the most wonderful man and for the first time in my life I feel head over heels about a guy. We’ve begun to be sexual, though we haven’t yet slept together. But he’s confided in me that he swings. He’s been doing it for five years or so, and assures me

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Wise Counsel From Susan Quilliam: To shave or not to shave

Dear Susan I’ve always shaved my pubic hair – to me it’s more hygienic and just looks better. But my new man is anti and wants me to let it grow back – he says that a shaved pussy is just too “childlike” for him, and he wants me to look like a real woman.

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Wise Counsel From Susan Quilliam: I truly am too small

Hi Susan I bet you get this from guys all the time, but I’m worried about the size of my cock. In my case, though, I’ve got reason to worry. I’m really small. I mean really small – when erect only two inches. I’ve had some very hurtful comments from girls I’ve slept with, to

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Wise Counsel From Susan Quilliam: I keep dreaming about being raped

Dear Susan OK, so I’m my own woman. I don’t take any rubbish from men, I like equal relationships, and my current partner – a lovely man – treats me like a princess. So why do I keep dreaming about being raped, sometimes violently, sometimes by more than one guy. It shook me when it

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Wise Counsel From Susan Quilliam: Why don’t I get hit on?

Dear Susan   Help! I just never get chatted up. When I’m in a crowd, and guys hit on my friends, they sort of ignore me. Occasionally one of the quieter ones will start chatting to  me and we often get on really well. But I never get the full-on ‘want to come home with

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Wise Counsel From Susan Quilliam: Bondage – how early is too early?

Dear Susan   Quick question. If a guy suggests tying you up on a first date, and you really want to do it, is there anything wrong with that? I think not, my friend says I’m mad. What’s your view?   Simi Dear Simi I’m with your friend on this. It’s not that there’s anything

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Wise Counsel From Susan Quilliam: Is my kid sister in trouble?

Hi Susan   I’m really worried about my stepsister. I’m 26, and am happily married to a man I’ve known since I was at school. My stepsister’s 17, the age I was when I got engaged, but she seems to know loads of boys. She says they’re all just good friends, but they spend most

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Wise Counsel From Susan Quilliam: I’ve not come out to my parents

Hi Susan   My first, wonderful lesbian relationship has just ended because my lover has gone to the US to do her Phd – and though I’m devastated on one level, on another level I’m really happy for her… plus I feel quite relieved. I’ve not come out to my Mum and Dad yet and

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Wise Counsel From Susan Quilliam: He’s so big!

Dear Susan   Help! My new man is, shall we say… big. We’ve not had full intercourse, though we’ve had a great time playing around. But I’m wary whether it will hurt when we get down to the good stuff. Any tips?   Lucy Dear Lucy Don’t panic. If your man is that big, he’s

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Wise Counsel From Susan Quilliam: I’m a spanking novice

Hi Susan Guess it seems a bit timid on a site like this, but my girlfriend wants me to spank her and I’m not sure I’m up for it. She says her previous partners have done it, but I don’t know where to start. What should I be doing… will it hurt her… how do

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