Wise Counsel From Susan Quilliam: He chose work over me

Dear Susan   My partner and I planned our first dirty weekend together down to the last romantic detail – we got a wonderful country house hotel, with fantastic food, great country walks, champagne on ice, the works. So imagine my shock when he got a phone call half way through to say he was

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Wise Counsel From Susan Quilliam: My flatmate’s noisy sex

Hi Susan   I share a flat with another guy and we normally get on really well and look out for each other. But he’s just got a new girlfriend after being single for a while, and they have sex all the time, and very noisily. It actually turns my stomach a bit – to

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Wise Counsel From Susan Quilliam: How can I climax her way?

Dear Susan   I love sex, and I love coming – but I was talking with my girlfriend the other day and what she described is nothing like what I experience. Mine is really focussed round my genitals whereas hers is more a tingling through her whole body. What’s the difference, and how can I

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Wise Counsel From Susan Quilliam: We’re not in the same time zone

Dear Susan Great girlfriend, great sex, great love life. But I get randy in the morning and she just wants to get up and go to work… then at night when she’s relaxed and ready I’m knackered from a heavy day. How can we solve this ‘time lag’ problem?   Rob Hi Rob Interestingly, you’re

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Wise Counsel From Susan Quilliam: I want to find a woman for my man

Dear Susan My man and I share a fantasy of my finding another woman and ‘training her up’ for him. I’d show her just what he likes and what he needs her to do in order to please him, then we’d have an amazing night together. He and I have dreamed about this a lot,

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Wise Counsel From Susan Quilliam: Will getting married put an end to getting laid?

Dear Susan Getting married in six weeks’, really looking forward to the wedding, and dying to be wed to my beautiful princess. But the lads keep telling me that once we’re hitched, that’ll be it in the bedroom department. Any guidance on how to keep things hot for life?   Dermot Dear Dermot My first

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Wise Counsel From Susan Quilliam: He can’t keep his eyes to himself

Hi Susan I love my man to bits, but there’s one habit of his that I really hate. If we’re walking down the street or in the car he keeps checking out other women. I’ve told him I hate it, and he says he’ll stop, but after a while he forgets and starts again. (I’m

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Wise Counsel From Susan Quilliam: Which man should I choose?

Dear Susan My situation I’m is the absolute extreme of “It’s complicated.” I started off dating Justin and so began hanging out with his crowd. When I ended our relationship, I very soon started going out with J’s best friend Stuart, and though that rocked the social situation a bit, we all kept seeing each

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Wise Counsel From Susan Quilliam: Is he kidding about coming?

Hi Susan My boyfriend said the other day that I really shouldn’t be bringing myself off as it would make me go blind. I’m pretty sure he was joking – but was he? Or does he just not want me pleasuring myself in case I decide I don’t need his services any more? Surely there’s

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Wise Counsel From Susan Quilliam: I think we’re at the end…

Hi Susan My husband and I have been having a rough time lately – lots of arguments, hardly speaking and certainy no sex or cuddles. We’ve talked a number of times about splitting up, and always pulled back from the edge. But the other night I was lying in bed beside him, hearing him breathe

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Wise Counsel From Susan Quilliam: I really don’t want to get naked

Dear Susan It’s a while since I last had full sex with a man, but there’s now someone in my life who I’m pretty sure it’s going to happen with. Thing is, I’ve put on a huge amount of weight over the past two years and am just not comfortable with him seeing my body.

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Wise Counsel From Susan Quilliam: I sexted my sister

Hi Susan   I can’t believe I did this… but three days ago I pressed the wrong key on my contacts and sent a very naughty text meant for my girlfriend (Emma) to my sister (Emily) instead. I haven’t heard from my sister since and am too embarrassed to get in touch. What do you

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Wise Counsel From Susan Quilliam: My man’s just told me he fancies men

Dear Susan I think my world has just come to an end. My partner has just nervously told me that he’s bi, and in the past has slept with men as well as women. We’ve been together six months and I was absolutely besotted with him – but now I don’t feel I know him

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Wise Counsel From Susan Quilliam: Does screaming mean she’s come?

Hi Susan, I’m with a new partner and our sex life is great… at least, I think it is! She makes a huge amount of noise during the whole thing, particularly at the end, and up to now I’ve assumed that this means she’s orgasming at the same time as I am. But the other

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Wise Counsel From Susan Quilliam: My partner hates my pussy

Hi Susan I really care for my man, and our sex life is OK. But apparently my genitals put him off. I do have very big labia, and he feels they’re not feminine.  I’m thinking of saving up for surgery to have my labia altered and he seems really up for that. I’ve never had

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Wise Counsel From Susan Quilliam: I just know he’s going to propose!

Hi Susan, Jed and I have been together for a year. He’s planned a huge thing for Valentine’s – chauffeur car, upmarket restaurant on the river – and keeps saying that he has a big surprise for me. But I’ve got a horrible feeling that the surprise is a ring. I love him very much,

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Wise Counsel From Susan Quilliam: I want the truth about porn

Hi Susan I’m very confused. I just read a survey of relationship experts (lots of them), most of whom reckon that porn is bad for relationships. But one of your recent answers (where a couple were considering doing a porn film) seemed to be much more sympathetic. I’m not arguing with you, or saying porn

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Wise Counsel From Susan Quilliam: Sex With My Ex?

Dear Susan I’m single at the moment, and not too happy about it. I’m particularly in a mood right now because I hate all the Valentine’s Day fuss when I haven’t got anyone to spend the occasion with. So when my ex rang to say he was going to be in town on business and

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Wise Counsel From Susan Quilliam: Does she prefer her vibe to me?

Dear Susan I’ve just started going out with my girlfriend, and was a bit startled when she told me she uses sex toys a lot – her bedside drawer is full of vibrators. I’m completely unused to partners who use additions and wonder if that means she’s going to be unhappy with my performance or

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Wise Counsel From Susan Quilliam: Should I let him take a lover?

Dear Susan, For as long as I can remember I haven’t been much interested in sex, and so when I met my husband it seemed like a perfect fit because he didn’t need much either. We have the most fabulous relationship, we are each other’s best friend, we love each other’s company – it’s perfect.

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Wise Counsel From Susan Quilliam: Sex tips for Girlfriend’s Birthday

Dear Susan   I love my girlfriend to bits and though we can’t be together on her birthday, I want to give her the night of her life when we do meet at the weekend. Any ideas?   Sean Dear Sean Where to start? There’s so many things that you could do here that it

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Wise Counsel From Susan Quilliam: Am I Gay?

Dear Susan I’ve always fancied girls as well as boys, and have had some one-night stands and a few longer relationships over the years with women as well as with men. But now I’m deeply involved with a guy. He knows about my leanings, but we are very much in love and he is even

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Wise Counsel From Susan Quilliam: I’ve been trolled!

Hi Susan I made a huge mistake last weekend – I posted on a sex forum about a problem I have. There are now 113 trolling comments on my post and I feel destroyed. I do know – well, at least I hope – that no one can track down who I am, but even

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Wise Counsel From Susan Quilliam: Can Women Really Climax Without Touch?

Dear Susan I’ve read it’s possible to climax without touch – but is it really? Surely you need some stimulation to get off? Anna Anna, Many people claim to have done this, but no-one’s ever created a foolproof, replicable, teachable way to do it all ‘no hands’. (Though in the States apparently an electronic implant

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