Show Me by Rebecca Black

As I take another sip of red wine I watch him move around the kitchen. He keeps rolling his right shoulder, trying to relieve the knot of stress that I know he carries there after a busy, stressful week. There are faint lines of strain around his eyes –  their usually vibrant colour dimmed by

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News: Sexpo Coming to London

  SexpoTM, the world’s largest sexual health and lifestyle exhibition is coming to London, UK for the first time ever in 2015. Taking place on the 13th -15th of November 2015 at the London Olympia, SexpoTM UK will showcase the latest and innovative attributes of sexual lifestyle and health in a fun and vibrant atmosphere.

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News: Unslut Project Trailer Released

In 2013, 17-year-old Rehtaeh Parsons took her own life. The Halifax teenager had been gang-raped a year and a half earlier by her classmates and labeled a “slut” as a result. Despite transferring schools many times, she could not escape constant cyber harassment and in-person bullying. Rehtaeh’s is not the only story like this to

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How UK sex education erases women’s role in reproduction

    The documentary Sex In Class, where Belgian sexologist and TV presenter Goedele Liekens teaches sex education to English teens, raises a lot of questions about the UK system.   We already know sex education in Britain is often inadequate, a luck of the draw, and heteronormative. Section 28 prevents teachers from “promoting homosexuality” so

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News: Registration Open for Conference on Everyday Violence

Registraton is now open for Everyday Violence Taking place Wednesday 9 September – Friday 11 September 2015 at the School of Geography, University of Leeds, take advantage of early-bird rates by registering before Sunday 31 May 2015 Tickets on sale until Sunday 2 August 2015 This three-day conference aims to create an inclusive and supportive

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News: A Taste of Smut in Manchester.

Smut.UK (http://ilovesmut.uk) has announced their first evening event, a taster season of the larger all-day events that they do. It’s In Manchester, at the Bangkok Bar & Restaurant on the 8th April from 5pm to 10pm (The time has been extended to fit in all the wonderful stuff they have planned) The evening is being

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News: HIV Self Testing Kits Available by May 2015

By May 2015 self testing HIV kits will be available from Central and North West London NHS Foundation Trust’s (CNWL) online Freedoms shop. The UK’s first legally approved HIV self-testing kit is anticipated to go on sale in the next few weeks on CNWL’s Freedoms shop website (www.freedoms-shop.com) for £29.95. The self test is the

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News: Fun Factory Toys Win Design Prize

Fun Factory is a regular winner when it comes to design – both literally and metaphorically. And now it’s got two new awards to add to its rather bulging award-cupboard. Anal balls B Balls (why not A balls, we have to wonder?) and the Mini Vibrator Amorini, two toys by the Bremen sex toy manufacturer,

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Nobody Asked

  I answered this reader’s question on my own blog a year ago, but since it addresses issues that arise periodically I felt it would be worthwhile to revisit it here: I’m passionately against sex-trafficking, and on the whole I do not support sex work.  If the existence of the sex industry hides trafficked victims,

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News: 100 Modern Erotic Classics That You’ve Never Heard Of #EWBD

As part of March 5’s Erotic World Book Day, a group of erotica writers and readers recently assembled a 100-book-strong recommended reading list, to encourage exploration of the rich and diverse world of high-quality modern erotic literature. Outside of specialized writing and reading communities where erotic literature is the main focus, most of the attention

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Why Revenge Porn Works

  It’s now a crime in the UK to post or send “revenge porn”. A sensible law in keeping with the spirit of existing criminal law and data protection laws, and, as many would agree, long overdue. But law isn’t the only thing that needs to change. Because without certain attitudes prevalent in our society,

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Hands On

I think I can safely speak for virtually all sex workers when I say that we don’t want to be passive tools used by governments and NGOs as the excuse for tyranny; we simply want to be left alone to live our lives like anyone else, with the same rights, privileges, duties and legal protections

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Guinea Pigs

As I’ve written many times, tyranny always starts with unpopular minorities, but it absolutely never stops with them.  Every time a new kind of law, legal procedure or police tactic is dreamed up by those with the sick need to control others, it is invariably tested first on some group that the “authorities” know few

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St. Valentine’s Day

A few Februaries ago my husband called me from the road one day to tell me what a fantastic wife I was, and how lucky he was to have me; I replied that although I wholly agreed with those statements, I was at a loss to understand what exactly had precipitated them in the middle

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Doubling Down

As I’ve pointed out many times, moral panics do not slowly decline until they vanish; rather, they continue to grow until they begin to rot from within like an overripe fruit, then they burst and spread their noxious juices everywhere.  Seen from some angles, though, the panic may seem as robust as ever right up until

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News: Sexpo™ UK Announces London Dates & Release of Early Bird Tickets

Sexpo™, the world’s largest sexual health and lifestyle exhibition is coming to London, UK for the first time ever in 2015. Taking place on the 13th-15th of November 2015 at the London Olympia, Sexpo™ UK will showcase the latest and  most innovative attributes of sexual lifestyle and health in a fun, vibrant atmosphere. It will

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News: Last Chance for Eroticon Earlybird Tickets

At Cliterati, we’ve long been fans of Eroticon, the UK’s conference for sex bloggers and erotica writer: a weekend of workshops where you can learn, share, network and meet the people behind the names on your computer screen. From honing your writing schools to to increasing your readership, selling your books to learning marketing strategies

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Candlemas

Why, what’s the matter, That you have such a February face, So full of frost, of storm and cloudiness? – William Shakespeare, Much Ado About Nothing (V,iv) Tomorrow is the ancient festival of Imbolc, celebrated by the Celts as the beginning of spring and the day sacred to Brigit, the goddess of fire and healing.

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News: Sex, Intimacy and Care Home Residents Research Initiative Announced

Sex, sexuality and intimacy among old people and care home residents in particular is the last taboo. There is little awareness of the intimate and erotic needs of older care home residents needs.  This topic is routinely sidelined in Government policy and often shrouded in silence and/or shame in care settings. Old people are excluded from sexual citizenship:

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News: Sh! Womenstore Announces New Sex Play Course

  Do you want to introduce something new to your sex life? Sh! Womenstore has announced a class to help you do just that. During a relaxed and friendly 1.5hr class you’ll learn about bondage and power-play for pleasure, including how to tie and tease, safely and consensually, to accentuate the sexual experiences for all

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Nothing New

Every generation thinks it invented sex, or at least non-vanilla sex.  And I don’t just mean teenagers who are squicked out by the idea of their parents shagging, either; among vanilla folk and/or those outside the demimonde, the delusion seems to persist through life that nearly everybody who lived before a moving line (hovering like

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News: Unslut Project Seeks Second Round of Funding

At Cliterati, we’ve long been following the progress of The Unslut Project, which aims to break down slut shaming and sexual stigma, through its website and documentary. Now they’re looking for a second round of funding, after succesfully completing their ground-breaking documentary. “Slut: A Documentary Film” tells the story of Rehtaeh Parsons, a Nova Scotia teenager

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News: UK Performers Put Arses on the Line to Fight New Porn Regs

First it was face­sitting… now UK performers are literally putting their arses on the line to fight the UK porn laws. “For every £10 raised, we will take one HARD cane stroke.” ­ that’s the promise made by Pandora Blake and Nimue Allen on their uniquely kinky indiegogo campaign. Pandora and Nimue are porn producers

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News: Still Time to get Half Price Smut Luton Tickets

  Pick up a ticket for Smut Luton for just £5. Offer ends on the 30th January so don’t hang about.  The Hat factory, Luton will host the first smut event of 2015 sponsored by House of Erotica. Smut Events are fun, safe, inclusive days out when erotica & erotic romance readers and writers get together

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