Out with the new

DSM is moving into a new phase in her life: ‘new man’ is going to have a name change. I felt that after six months, ‘new man’ probably does not qualify as ‘new’ anymore. I was going to use his initials, as I have with previous male ‘characters’ but this also didn’t seem right. No,

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Play With Me by Rebecca Black

She is panting already. She has no self control where he is concerned. Legs spread over his, she revels in the beautiful ache that is building between them. Her eyes are fastened on his hand down her panties. His thumb rests on her tanned stomach while the rest of his fingers have slipped beneath the

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Please please me

Happiness is often something you only know you have experienced retrospectively. The only time, in DSM’s view, that you know you are happy in the present tense (and omitting anything chemically induced) is either when you are laughing out loud or during an orgasm. Otherwise, it’s only after the event that you think: “Actually, that was

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Nothing New

Every generation thinks it invented sex, or at least non-vanilla sex.  And I don’t just mean teenagers who are squicked out by the idea of their parents shagging, either; among vanilla folk and/or those outside the demimonde, the delusion seems to persist through life that nearly everybody who lived before a moving line (hovering like

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From mediocre to magic

You may think Drunken Slut Mum is a woman lacking any conscience or morality, without any feelings or care for anyone else other than herself. She likes to pretend this, especially in front of the man, but sorry, this isn’t the case. DSM feels, hurts, loves and laughs just like any other woman. I love

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Wise Counsel From Susan Quilliam: Does screaming mean she’s come?

Hi Susan, I’m with a new partner and our sex life is great… at least, I think it is! She makes a huge amount of noise during the whole thing, particularly at the end, and up to now I’ve assumed that this means she’s orgasming at the same time as I am. But the other

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Column: Meditation on Orgasms by Blacksilk

If I were a “spiritual” sort of person, I’m pretty sure orgasms would be my religion. I don’t mean to be flippant here. It’s easy to make “Oh, God, oh, God” jokes or to make an offhand comment about worshipping wanking, but that’s not what I mean. As I say, I’m not a “spiritual” person,

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Erotica: In a Lady’s Garden

When Valerie invited me to her party, I found out she was older than my mother. ‘I’m 60’ she said ‘and I’m retiring. I’ve a lot to celebrate.’ I knew my neighbour as a keen gardener. Every day she was out in the garden, in her old clothes, spectacles on a string around her neck

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Erotica: Showers and Strawberries by Blacksilk

Such a long week and so devoid of release. One little cog jams and suddenly, no sweet and soaring sex for me. Nothing but tantalising teases and the little preludes that normally swell into full-blown symphonies. A long, long week with no sex but plenty of sexuality, plenty of seduction, plenty of sinful talk and

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Wise Counsel From Susan Quilliam: Can Women Really Climax Without Touch?

Dear Susan I’ve read it’s possible to climax without touch – but is it really? Surely you need some stimulation to get off? Anna Anna, Many people claim to have done this, but no-one’s ever created a foolproof, replicable, teachable way to do it all ‘no hands’. (Though in the States apparently an electronic implant

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Columns: Please please me

Happiness is often something you only know you have experienced retrospectively. The only time, in DSM’s view, that you know you are happy in the present tense (and omitting anything chemically induced) is either when you are laughing out loud or during an orgasm. Otherwise, it’s only after the event that you think: “Actually, that

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Wise Counsel From Susan Quilliam: I’m Silent When I Climax, Am I Weird?

Dear Susan, A very quick question. I can climax fine on my own and with a partner. But I can only really do it if I lie very, very still – no noise, no movement, not even breathing sometimes. I’ve had some funny looks from partners when I explain this but most are fine about

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Sex Science: The Making of a Disease by Brooke Magnanti

An interesting bookend to the revelations about women and erotica is the parallel discussion about women’s sex lives as they go through the menopause. While we now have evidence that demonstrates women are interested in sex for their own pleasure, a lot of it gets ignored because the stereotypes are just too widespread and too

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Sex in the News: No Orgasm as a Choice – The Anti-Climax Therapy

By Robert Page An old idea, called “karezza”, has become new news. The way to strengthen relationships and marriages is to have cuddly intimacy whilst on purpose giving up on orgasms. In bed, smiling, gazing, cradling, making contented noises, touching and sucking breasts and even gently placing the palm of your hand on your lover’s

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Ask Cliterati: Why Can’t I Come?

  I’ve being sleeping with my boyfriend for the past ten months and I still haven’t come. To begin with, he didn’t even know where the clitoris was although he’s figured it out now. At first I was fine with not coming but now I’m getting frustrated. I think it’s about time I masturbated, in

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Sexually Cliterate: Can You Find Your Own Clitoris?

For years, jokes have been cracked about men’s ineptitude when it comes to finding the clitoris. However, you may be surprised to discover the clit is so much more than the little nub most people associate it with.

Wise Counsel from Susan Quilliam: How do I Please a Woman?

Q: Hi Susan Classic guy’s question – what do women want? I’ve just split up with a girl whose parting shot was that I was crap in bed. I always got hard, always kept going for hours, always made her come. But she still wanted out and I’m left nursing my wounds. Simon A; Hi

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