Can Kink/Vanilla Couples Ever Flourish?

Fetish has been increasingly entering the mainstream over the last few years. Films such as The Notorious Betty Page, Shortbus and Secretary have all brought kink out into the open, and nowadays it’s rare to see a catwalk show or fashion magazine that doesn’t have some kind of fetish influence. Obviously, this is good news

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Features: Daisy Chain With Dumb Domme by GirlontheNet

When Cliterati first started, there were very few people – particularly women – writing about sex on the internet. Now, there’s an abundance of sex bloggers. But who should you read? We didn’t think it was fair for us to decide on our own but wanted to help expose (ahem) the best sex bloggers around.

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How does it work?

With all my recent questioning and hand-wringing over relationships, which never comes to any satisfactory conclusion, I thought it time to look at those who get it right. Or appear to get it right in front of friends and onlookers. Some couples just seem to make it work with very few problems – no pots

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Over and out?

Apparently there is no point going on the internet to find a potential partner, if you are a woman in her 40s – so says a newspaper article I found during a casual internet browse. I won’t disclose the wording I typed in my search box, but it included the words “is there any point…”

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Encore une fois

Ever make a decision, then ask yourself whether you were too hasty and should have thought it through a little more first? Ever think that aspects of your life seem to have progressed like merry-go-rounds, with you just returning to the same thing again and again? Does this intro sound like the start of a

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Erotica – Get It Good by Jillian Boyd

Lovers of erotica, readers of Cliterati, rejoice! It’s Jillian here, with another slice of real life erotica, straight from the archives of my lovely blog. Well, I say archives… this happened quite recently, actually. My lovely boyfriend celebrated his birthday recently… and it’s fair to say we were both in need of a bit of

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Wise Counsel From Susan Quilliam: I want the truth about porn

Hi Susan I’m very confused. I just read a survey of relationship experts (lots of them), most of whom reckon that porn is bad for relationships. But one of your recent answers (where a couple were considering doing a porn film) seemed to be much more sympathetic. I’m not arguing with you, or saying porn

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Book Review: Rewriting the Rules by Meg Barker

Ever read The Rules? The Game? Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus? If so, I strongly recommend this book as an excellent alternative – and antidote – to all of them. Rather than setting out a list of directives that are supposed to somehow transform your love life (and force you into a rigid stereotype in

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Wise Council From Susan Quilliam: Does He Love Me?

Dear Susan, I met Josh at a dance class. We spend a lot of time together, not just dancing, but regularly going for meals or drinks, and I love him to bits, but have always assumed he’s gay. But when I introduced him to one of my gay friends, he reckons that Josh is in

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Wise Council From Susan Quilliam: I Want to Go Away With my Parents, Not my Partner Too

Hi Susan, I’ve been Sam for six months and he’s lovely. But I’ve got a holiday planned with my parents in the autumn and he’s hinting strongly that he wants to come along. I enjoy spending quality time with my family and I’d feel torn having Sam there too. I’ve offered to go away with

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The Rules of Love… For Perverts*

*Otherwise known as the seven habits of highly effective kinky people. I thought I’d kick off my career as a cliterati.co.uk columnist by sharing some romantic stories, most of which involve consensual pain, bondage and/or bollock torture. Start as we mean to go on, eh? The course of true love never did run smooth, but

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