Event Preview: Shibari With Santi, 8 & 9 November 2014, London

Shibari – Japanese rope bondage – is an unendingly popular form of kink, and these two workshops run by Sacred Pleasures‘ resident rope geek, Santiago Genochio, consistently sell out – so book early. The first day is for beginners, the second for those who have already attended one of Santi’s beginners’ days. Or you can

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Why do kink when you can do ‘Ecstatic BDSM’?

Why just do kink when you can do ‘Ecstatic BDSM’? That’s the question London Faerie aims to answer at The Purple Door, a two-day workshop in London, on Saturday 27th and Sunday 28th September. The workshop provides a comprehensive introduction to Ecstatic BDSM – sometimes also called ‘conscious kink’ – for anyone with any level of

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Books: Unmastered – A Book On Desire, Most Difficult To Tell by Katherine Angel

A fascinating book looking – as the subtitle says – at a topic that can be very, very difficult to discuss: female desire. It’s difficult for many reasons: because ‘good girls’, apparently, aren’t supposed to possess sexual desire at all; because feminists who admit to having certain desires are often shamed (whether by others or

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Book Review: Rewriting the Rules by Meg Barker

Ever read The Rules? The Game? Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus? If so, I strongly recommend this book as an excellent alternative – and antidote – to all of them. Rather than setting out a list of directives that are supposed to somehow transform your love life (and force you into a rigid stereotype in

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Event Reviews: Penny Arcade – Bitch! Dyke! Faghag! Whore!

Now 61, performance artist Penny Arcade is one of life’s true originals. Growing up in New York in the 60s within the city’s community of queers and trannies, Penny became an uber faghag and outspoken commentator on sexuality and censorship. She was best mates with Quentin Crisp, supported her friends through the horrors of the

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News: Pride London apologises for scaled-down event

The organisers of Pride London have apologised publicly for changes to tomorrow’s event, which will see all vehicles banned from the parade, no official outdoor events in Soho and an earlier finish. Hundreds of thousands of people are expected to go to central London tomorrow for the gay pride celebration, which is one of the

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The Rules of Love… For Perverts*

*Otherwise known as the seven habits of highly effective kinky people. I thought I’d kick off my career as a cliterati.co.uk columnist by sharing some romantic stories, most of which involve consensual pain, bondage and/or bollock torture. Start as we mean to go on, eh? The course of true love never did run smooth, but

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