Columns: I’m Sex Positive by Cliff Pervocracy

I’m sex-positive! And I’m realizing that’s a painfully ambiguous term.  I’ve seen people use it to mean everything from “not viewing sex as inherently evil” to “insisting that everyone should have tons of orgasms and it’ll solve all their problems.”  You can see how people using the first definition could have some seriously unproductive arguments

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Erotica: A Gathering Part 1 by Suzi E

I lay on the bed. Male voices chatting and laughing in the lounge below drifted up the chimney breast into the rear bedroom. My senses heightened by the blindfold.Then, the sound of the front door opening, the noise of the passing traffic; ordinary people going about the routine minutiae of their ordinary Monday morning. Then

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Wise Counsel From Susan Quilliam: My flatmate’s noisy sex

Hi Susan   I share a flat with another guy and we normally get on really well and look out for each other. But he’s just got a new girlfriend after being single for a while, and they have sex all the time, and very noisily. It actually turns my stomach a bit – to

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Erotica: King of Hearts by Blacksilk

Her heavy breath brushed the lobe of my ear as she leant in to kiss my neck. She smelt faintly of men’s deodorant and alcohol. Her lips brushed my skin teasingly before she nipped at me, catching me off-guard, her teeth finding purchase. She released me and grinned; I stifled a giggle. Her eyes were

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Trying it on for size

If there is a sure-fire way to shatter the dregs of one’s self-esteem, it has to be trying on a pile of clothes in various shop changing rooms. Think you are getting a little too self-assured and big for your boots? Try going into a tiny cubicle with three-way mirrors and harsh lighting to magnify

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Erotica: Acting on Instructions by Blacksilk

Red is a vixen, Red is a flirt Red told me to go to him and rip off his shirt Red is a siren, Red is a tease Red told me to take him and bring him to his knees He was playing D&D and I was in my bedroom somewhat bored. I say bored, “bored” was

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China Dolls

This past Tuesday, the European Parliament passed a call for continent-wide censorship of sexual content, justified by a view of women more at home in Victorian thought than in the second decade of the 21st century.  Yes, I know you heard that the measure was defeated, but that’s because the Fourth Estate no longer bothers

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Wise Counsel From Susan Quilliam: I really don’t want to get naked

Dear Susan It’s a while since I last had full sex with a man, but there’s now someone in my life who I’m pretty sure it’s going to happen with. Thing is, I’ve put on a huge amount of weight over the past two years and am just not comfortable with him seeing my body.

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Columns: White and Nerdy by Blacksilk

You might wonder where I’m going with this, but bear with me. Last year, geek deity George Takei (who you should all love) hosted a photo competition on Facebook to search for his nerdiest Facebook fans. This is the photo that won the Biggest Male Nerd. It was submitted by one of the kids in

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Wise Counsel From Susan Quilliam: Does screaming mean she’s come?

Hi Susan, I’m with a new partner and our sex life is great… at least, I think it is! She makes a huge amount of noise during the whole thing, particularly at the end, and up to now I’ve assumed that this means she’s orgasming at the same time as I am. But the other

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Books: Eighty Days Red

When I first heard about this series, I believed it would be a trilogy, so I was a tad confused when this was changed. However, I now get it. This is still a trilogy, of sorts, with Eighty Days Red being the last in a certain storyline. The next books go on to deal with different characters,

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Erotica: In a Lady’s Garden

When Valerie invited me to her party, I found out she was older than my mother. ‘I’m 60’ she said ‘and I’m retiring. I’ve a lot to celebrate.’ I knew my neighbour as a keen gardener. Every day she was out in the garden, in her old clothes, spectacles on a string around her neck

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Wise Counsel From Susan Quilliam: Sex With My Ex?

Dear Susan I’m single at the moment, and not too happy about it. I’m particularly in a mood right now because I hate all the Valentine’s Day fuss when I haven’t got anyone to spend the occasion with. So when my ex rang to say he was going to be in town on business and

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Wise Counsel From Susan Quilliam: Does she prefer her vibe to me?

Dear Susan I’ve just started going out with my girlfriend, and was a bit startled when she told me she uses sex toys a lot – her bedside drawer is full of vibrators. I’m completely unused to partners who use additions and wonder if that means she’s going to be unhappy with my performance or

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Erotica: You sneaked in

  You sneaked in. After all the nights we had spent under the same roof, in the same room, sometimes in the same bed, never together. This time you crept in beside me. I dreamed you before I felt you, and then you were there. You touched me, my cock, and I woke up hard,

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Skin To Skin

Few people would deny the importance of skin-to-skin contact in the psychological, emotional and even physical health of the newborn infant; study after study since Harlow’s seminal work with Rhesus monkeys in the 1950s have demonstrated that even if all of a baby’s physical needs are met clinically and dispassionately, it will not thrive in

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Women Writing Desire and a (sort of) Call for Submissions by Liza

Back in October the women’s blogging powerhouse site BlogHer put out a call for submissions for an e-anthology of real life sex stories focused around the theme of desire. They asked for stories that put the reader in the moment, that communicate real, authentic desire. And then there was the hitch: “Submissions cannot be anonymous — that

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Erotica: The Surrogate by Cela Winter

Molly’s in Saint Paul, Troy is in San Diego—but maybe distance really is just a state of mind … It’s three minutes till ten. As usual, I’m sitting up in bed, a magazine open on my knees, and my phone within easy reach on the night stand. Not so usual are the other things lying

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Erotica: Humble Bundle by Blacksilk

It’s not often I have sex to the gentle sounds of cartoon bears growling, but I suppose that’s what I should expect if I come over all insistent while Crush is playing Triple Town. After being effectively locked up in my house for most of my suddenly three-day weekend, my snow shut-in was seeming a very

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Erotica: How To Keep Immaculate In A Restricted Space by Feathers.

Picture the scene. I am at work. On an airplane. A special airplane. I am wearing a uniform, which goes with my job, which is military. I am fairly senior, a Major. My job is to look after my boss who is very senior indeed, a four star General. His job is to look after

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Erotica: Her (His) Story by KL Gillespie

Be careful what you wish for, so the saying goes. Well I always was and I always wished for the same thing. For as long as I can remember, every birthday candle blown out, every shooting star in the sky, every coin thrown in the well was all about one thing. I wished for it

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Erotica: It Was So Worth It by Liza Bennet

I pulled off my pajamas and crept onto the bed, insinuating myself into his space, trying to get his attention. He feigned disinterest, as though whatever he was typing was more important than an unwrapped New Year’s gift nuzzling against his chest. “You’re not trying very hard to distract me,” he said through a laugh,

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Wise Counsel From Susan Quilliam: Should I go to a male escort like my girlfriends have done?

Dear Susan, This isn’t a Christmas question, but it is something that’s come up for me because of Christmas. I spent the day with some girlfriends – we’re all single – and courtesy of a large number of bottles of red wine over dinner, we started talking about using male escorts. Turns out two of

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