This is an answer for a woman who has never had an orgasm. First,your boyfriend and you should be without any expectations at all. Of course,you should have at least some kind of attraction to each other at first, then to develop a real love. Men make a big mistake: they desperately want to cum, instead of just enjoying sex.You don't need any 'device' or any special pose, everything comes naturally. If your partner can make love for hours, with full control (it is not too hard,though many people think otherwise),to be really focused on pleasure, without any taboos, everything will be OK.

I started masturbating a few years ago, and I enjoyed it. I started getting rougher when I did so, to gain more, but I think I must have damaged myself or something, as it has become really hard for me to achieve climax now.

Though I've had sex regulary with different partners I've never been able to orgasm, and all my friends have been able to through masturbation - which I've tried over and over and I never seem to be able to get the hang of it. I've tried loads of different methods but never been able to orgasm. I've had my boyfriend masturbate me, and thought I enjoy it I never reach climax, and I won't let him give me oral as I'm not confident about it. I've never actually experienced an orgasm though I seem to have tried almost everything - Is there something wrong with me?

Recently my boyfriend and I have discovered anal sex. We've been together for 3 years and have recently got more into the BDSM lifestyle, this includes having progressively rougher anal sex. I was just wondering, is there anything we're doing that could cause me, or him, harm and are there any tips that you could give us to make things safer for both of us?

I've recently started sleeping with a new boyfriend but although I lost my virginity two years ago, I'm still very inexperienced. I've only ever had sex in the misionary position and even then I feel a bit awkward as I never know what to do. I just don't know how to move.
I really want to try some new positions especially girl on top but I'm too nervous as I feel I wouldn't know how to please us both. Can you please give me some tips about what to do.

I have a great and very understanding boyfriend. The problem is I can't tell him what I want. He's more experienced than me, and tells me what he wants me to do when I'm giving him oral and occasionally hand jobs, but he's the only guy who's ever given me decent oral (more than a few seconds), so I have nothing to compare him to. It feels really good, but I'd like to be able to suggest new things.
Even in the areas where I know what I like, and want him to do something different, I find it really hard to talk about it. I know he wants to make it really good for me so I don't think he'd mind, but I usually just let him do it his way. Any advice?

I have been with my boyfriend for over two years now, and have been having sex for almost as long (I lost my virginity to him). We have quite an adventurous sex life, and use vibrators quite often. I thought I hadn't ever cum, it felt like I'd almost cum several times, but lost it just before the end. However, he suggested this was me actually cumming as I didn't like to be touched after this. I think this is true. However it's upsetting as although it's good, it doesn't last long and isn't the mind blowing thing people talk about. Also, this only happens with a vibe. He is the sweetest thing ever and will try anything and everything to try to make me cum, but it just doesn't work. What can I do?

I lost my virginity at 18 to a much older lover.I suppose I thought that if he didn't make me orgasm he'd be upset,so I faked it.He's a considerate and eager-to-please man,loves foreplay as much as sex itself.The problem is that once I began to masturbate I found out what really turned me on and how I liked to be touched.I can't orgasm through penetration,though I've come close a lot of times.How do I get out of the faking trap?

I have great sex with a fella I've known for almost two years. Problem is, when I first met him he would go down on me with out me asking, seemed to love it, and commented on how gorgeous I tasted. It was the best I've ever known and I'm 50 now. He has got really selfish in sex, asking more and more of me to give him what he wants but never asking me what I want, despite my indications of wanting oral pleasure too. I'm slightly afraid of asking him directly why he's stopped this pleasurable act, as I don't want to embarrass him or myself in hearing the reply. Though that seems daft, considering he openly asks me to give to him.Should I stop giving him wanks and oral pleasure and see what happens? I absolutely love it.I am almost addicted to his cock.He has a beautiful arse too.He says I have a gorgeous arse.The relationship is almost entirely sexual, although at first we thought we were in love.I believe I still love him, as I am always thinking about him. He has hurt me a lot, ending and restarting the relationship more than once. Can you suggest a good tactic to get him back DOWN THERE?

I have always found reaching climax quite a lengthy, somewhat tedious and frustrating experience. I have had several vibrators, and had some success with them. I found that a lot of them burned out rather quickly. I got fed up with paying out to find you could not get a refund nor repair even when you'd only owned the thing a month. I recently bought an Omax massager. That's the business.Trouble is there are very noisy things, like a blooming road drill. My boyfriend has never offered to use it on me. I use it on my own.Over the past few months I have lost the ability to orgasm, properly,as I call it. I grunt and groan and go wild but nothing comes out. I read in a book called THE GOOD SEX GUIDE by Dr.David Delvin that "some women feel the urge to actually expel fluids when reaching orgasm, so is this sexual fluid the equivalent of male ejaculation?This states that women don't necessarily have to produce liquid when they come to actually have reached an orgasm.But it doesn't feel right to me. I am 50 now and enjoy sex very much and regularly. I wondered if it's my age that has stopped my sexual fluids from flowing or is it a block somewhere(in my head). I am bothered about it. I also seem rather dry and often have to use oil to lubricate. I have a myrena coil. This stopped my periods completely after a few months, as I was having a rough time with them. How can I get back my ability to produce fluid when reaching an orgasm.Or maybe I am not really getting there at all. Sad.

My girlfriend and I have been together almost two years and from the start have been shagging like rabbits. She told me she never enjoyed sex until she met me and now she loves it. I don't see myself as experienced, but I know how to turn her on (G-spots, clit, oral...)
However, recently having sex for her has become, well, difficult. She finds it hard to get horny, though she talks and thinks about sex all the time and it's only when we finally get down to some oral sex or some good old fingering that she gets really hot and wild. She then begs me to go inside her and when I do she says she enjoys it, but the horniness goes and it just kinda stops for her. Could this be down to stress, as she does get worked up when she has deadlines. Could it be that she is too worried about 'being good' or am I just not good enough?
Also she can't take a compliment. I tell her she is beautiful with as much sincerity as humanly possible and she just shrugs it off! I know loads of women who love those things! HELP ME PLEASE.

I have this problem, I don't seem to be able to orgasm even after lots of penetration, a little clit touching and plenty of external stimulation too. When I was with a long term partner, he would spend the time to rub my clit until I orgasmed, I am hoping I don't need this every time - will not be much fun! Can you offer any advice?

My husband and I are both in our mid fifties and still enjoy plenty of sexual activity but we hardly ever have full intercourse, preferring to masturbate in front of each other or masturbate each other.I have a couple of vibrators that I enjoy using as my husband watches and masturbates. Sometimes he uses them on me while I play with his dick.We have oral, which I particularly like to give, but we much prefer to masturbate to climax for mutual satisfaction.
Do any of your readers find our lack of penetration strange or agree it`s 'whatever turns you on?'.

The entrance to my vagina is really tender, and can be quite painful to touch. I recently lost my virginity and although I didn't bleed, I felt quite a lot of discomfort.My boyfriend and I have not had sex since, but every time he fingers me around this area, I experience pain. Even after orgasm, the entrance to my vagina is still sore. Is this common, and what can I do to solve the problem?

I've always been very confident about my appearance, except when it comes to sex. You see i have a very embarrassing problem...really long outer labia. I know they come in all shapes an sizes and there is no 'normal' size, but I still find it makes me really self conscious as they're so long. It sounds silly, but I can't help feeling like less of a woman because of it. My friend said I can have a surgical operation to have it shortened, is this true? I've just started dating a new man and am delaying having sex with him because of it. I can't tell him the problem, but i'm really anxious about him seeing me naked. Please help!

I am definitely not a lesbian but a really fantasise about having sex with another woman. I feel I really need to get it out of my system. I am not even attracted to any female I know but I get so turned on by lesbian scenes in films even though I love sex with my boyfriend. I really want to have lesbian sex. I get wet just thinking about it. I've read that there are female escorts that have sex with straight women. Is there anywhere I can pay for this without my boyfriend finding out.

I started having sex about three months ago and have had it with my boyfriend about twenty times. At first it hurt but now it doesn't except when I'm on top. Sex has never felt good though and I don't understand why. When he fingers me it feels really good but not sex. Can anyone help me with this problem?

I am 18 and have had sex once. I was very drunk at the time and I know how this must sound but I can't even remember the guy's name. Because I was so drunk and it was my first time, I couldn't really remeber/tell if he had put the condom on (I wasn't in a state to ask if I could inspect it). So the next day I took the morning after pill just to be on the safe side.

The thing is that when I woke up after having stumbled home my trousers had blood around the crotch area and I bled (only a small amount)all of the next day too. I am now worried that the next time I have sex(and it will be with somebody I love and I will be sober) it will be just as painful with the same result.

I love my partner very much, with have been with each for over a year, we do have a fun and wonderful sex life - when it is possible.
We are a young couple and are each others first partner. I discovered sex at the same time I began having it. I had never intentionally read anything rude in my life and had always felt wrong to see lewd images.But now, it's all different. I really enjoy reading erotica especially a certain fantasy (B&D) which I know I will never want to explore in such an extreme way in real life and I'm not bothered about the lewd images anymore.
However, I feel guilty. I feel guilty I enjoy these stories soo much and read them often. Shouldn't I be solely focussed on my boyfriend? I love him so much, I wouldn't ever want to hurt him or make him feel like I am not satisfieed with him - because I am. I am more than satisfied I am in heaven. We have gorgeous, beautiful sex, but then I do catch the odd naughty thought of him doing some of the stuff in the stories I read and get that bit more turned on.What should I do? Should I cut down reading these stories (I know you may be the wrong people to ask as you are an erotics stories site...) and channel all my sexual energy into my relationship? Or should I just see them as two seperate things, and relax and enjoy my body?I tend not to read the stories when we have regular sex, but if he ejaculates too quickly and I have to go home then I may read soem stories as I am still really turned on.
Is this wrong?

I was a virgin until the age of 19. This guy that I'm with is the one I lost it too. He's sexually experienced, I can tell, but why is it when he performs, these sexual acts, I can't really feel any sensations. When he inserts inside of me, I feel some but not really what I would expect, it's more like pressure, but no pleasure. I can't even orgasm. He asked me if I cum, and explained to me how it felt, if I did so. But it has not happened. Could it be something wrong with me,or what? He really cares for me, I can tell. But why is it that I can't experience these feelings that everyone else that you read about, or talk to, experiences.