I have being sleeping with my boyfriend for the past 10 months and I still haven't orgasmed. To begin with, he didn't even know where the clitoris was. I now think it is about time I masturbated, but I don't know how, what can I do? I thought it would be a good idea so that then I can go back to him with hints and tips. I just want to show him that he can give me sexual satisfaction - plus he is my first and I want to know what an orgasm feels like. I feel guilty. Please help

Ive been with my boyfriend for about two years. We recently went through a really bad patch where I felt unloved, unappreciated etc.. . I'm not using this as an excuse but because of my mood at the time I ended up crying on a friend's shoulder. This friend happened to be an ex-boyfriend who is still a close friend and after far too many drinks we ended up in bed together.

I have been filled with guilt ever since. Because of what I had done I immediately went to my boyfriend to finish the relationship. Ironically, this meant that we talked about the problems that we had in the relationship and set about sorting them out. However, I was too much of a coward to tell him what I had just done.

Now I am increadibly worried about STDs as I used no contraception other than the pill. Are there any signs I should look out for? I want to get tested anyway as I would hate to pass anything on to my boyfriend but have no idea how to go about it. Do I get tested for only certain things or all of them?

Also it may not sound like it but I do love my boyfriend. This is the only time I have ever been unfaithful to him and never would again. I don't have any interest in my ex and he doesn't want me. I'm just worried that I won't be able to get over it as I am having trouble sleeping and don't like myself at the moment. Do you think it is possible for a relationship to survive this sort of thing?

I would appreciate any advice. Thanks.

Hi,
I've been with my boyfriend for just over a year and been on the pill for about 6 months. However, I always get slightly worried about getting pregnant, even if there is really no need. The other day I was with my boyfriend. I had just finished the last pack but my period doesn't usually start for a few days. In the morning, I was bleeding slightly and now, a day later, it,s gone. I don't think this was the period. Could my boyfriend have been a bit rough? I get worried if things are irregular. Is there any other explanation?

I'm really getting confused. I caught my boyfriend smelling my worn knickers the other day and he was so embarressed and just died on the spot. Since then he had admitted that he has done it before without me knowing and that it really turns him on. However, I don't know if this is really normal or not. Is this strange or normal?

I am male and live with a very attractive young lady but occasionally I want to shag a complete stranger in the park, good and hard. Is this normal?

My boyfriend is nine inches long and extremely thick. I'm quite small down below and we have continually tried to have sex. My boyfriend can only get about two inches in and then it hurts him because he says I tense up. I don't want to and am unaware of myself doing it. I was wondering if there was anyway of stopping myself from doing this and any tips as to how we can have sex such as good positions etc. Help!

What am I supposed to do to stop my penis from smelling so bad. I am very hygienic and wash every day, taking care to pull the foreskin back to wash the head. The problem is after sex or masturbation, my penis still smells really bad for a couple of days afterwards. It is at the point where I can smell it really badly when I go to the toilet. I'm assuming it's cos I still kinda leak semen for a bit after sex (I don't know if that sounds weird). I want to know how I can get it to stop smelling so bad as it really puts my girlfriend off giving me a blow job!

I have never been able to make a guy cum, or even come close, with my mouth or my hands. With my mouth it's worse, I just don't know what to do. Please can you give me some tips as my boyfriend really pleases me and I want to be able to do the same for him.

Hmmm. I've been with my boyfriend for 18 months, and I love him immensely. I'll cut to the chase - I've completely lost my sex drive. Its disappeared. I can't get in the mood however hard I try. I can't understand why because up until a few months ago I was your typical horny-as-hell 19 year old and we were doing it at least every day. Now if we make twice a week it's bloody good. Help! I can't understand it.

Is it possible to get an STI from another woman? If so, what can I do for protection?
I'm keen to experiment but don't want to end up regretting it.
Concerned

This might sound funny but I have these spot like things on my vagina lips. They look like pores that have got bigger but with white stuff inside. I asked my mum and she says it's normal. I've been to the doctor for a smear and he didn't say anything. Is this normal? Should I worry, because it bothers me a lot.

My boyfriend thinks that I am too horny and that I want sex all the time, which is not true. I think I have a healthy appetite and he is just too lazy. Most of my friends get it quite a lot from their boyfriends so I feel a little left out and very frustrated. We are only 20 and should be doing it more - that's what I think anyway. Sometimes we argue about it and I'm worried it might cause problems.

I'm eighteen and have a serious partner which I've been with for a little over 2 years. We are very open with each other and usually try a lot of new ideas, fantasies, positions etc, but I have never orgasmed. Because we are open we've found out that I do come clitorally but not vaginally, I've spoken to my close friends about it who all orgasm vaginally but they have no clue. Can you give me some ideas on how to make my sex life that little bit better? Thanks, anon

I've been seeing my boyfriend for about three months. We're students and live in different cities so we only get to see each other at weekends. The problem is our sex life. It's not bad, anything but! The only problem is that he never cums. He is always so intent on pleasuring me and I always have a wonderful time. We've discussed it and he says that it's not a problem and always changes the subject and immediately asks me if I'm OK. It's now starting to bother me slightly though. I'm not that sexually experienced and I’m wondering if the fact that he never reaches orgasm is a reflection on me.

I am 18 and have been sleeping with my boyfriend (19) for a couple of months now but we have never had oral sex and always have sex in the missionary position which we're both getting tired of but won't speak about. He has had several other partners but he is the first person that I have been with which makes me nervous as I'm not so sure of what I'm doing! He has tried to bring up the subject of me sucking him or going on top but I usually try and laugh it off as I'm scared of not being able to pleasure him. I've tried being on top before but it hasn't really worked out and we've given up which has really knocked my confidence. I'm getting really uptight about it now which is making me more reluctant to try anything new and I don't know how to change the "boring sex" cycle! He's a really nice bloke but im scared he's going to get bored of me! I need some advice on how to make him happy, HELP!

I've been married to myhusband for six years and in that time have fallen more in love with him than the day we maried. My problem is he cums so quickly he didn't used to. He has the tongue of a god and I have the best orgasms a woman could wish for when he's down on me but then as soon as he starts to ride my now very wet pussy he cums. How can I make him last longer?

Help me! My boyfriend and I have been going out for nearly a year and a half, we've talked about sex and how each are other feeling about it as we are both virgins. We nearly had sex after five months but using the condom scared him and he ended up not being able to get an erection so I decided to go on the pill and eventually when it got to the crunch he couldn't fit in me. My sisters have told me to masturbate more but I don't get any pleasure out of it and generally feel stupid when doing it, but because my boyfriend and I are becoming so frustrated please help me!

I'm a guy and I've been with my girlfriend for some time now. A month ago we decided that we were ready to take the relationship that next stage and have full sex. The problem is that even having me inside her really hurt her. She told me that this had happened with her ex and even though we have tried different approaches to it (being completely relaxed and trying different positions with her on top controlling the speed of things etc) it doesnt seem to make any difference. I'm just worried because it really upsets her and I think any more bad experiences may put her off the idea completely. I was wondering if you've got any ideas as to what the problem could be or what we should try.
Thanks,
Matt

I lost my virginity to my boyfriend of six months. Everything was great, wonderful, but then, "What was that?" The condom split as my hymen broke. My boyfriend had not ejaculated and also said once he had taken the condom off he felt dry,as we were taking things so slowly and gently that he was only half in, so we presumed there was no pre-cum. After much deliberation with my mother, sister, friend and boyfriend, we think I'd be fine (and also under the influence of Bank Holiday so pharmacies are shut) But there's still a chance even though it would mean that it would not be fully effective and could give me annoying side effects. Do you think it's worth it? I would just like an outside opinion as it was my first time so it was all a bit wooo what's going on...oh pants.....:-)so what are the chances of me being pregnant? Oh and I am also only a week into my cycle.
Thank you for your time.
*confuzzled paranoia*

My boyfriend is really keen on anal sex but we have only managed it once without it being painful for me. Is there anything that can make it more comfortable??
And can having anal sex cause any long term damage?